Invite Dr. Lehmiller to Speak at Your Next Event or Conference

Dr. Justin Lehmiller has been an educator and researcher in the areas of relationships and sexuality for more than a decade. He has the experience necessary to deliver an engaging and entertaining presentation to your organization that will be custom-built to your needs. See below for upcoming events and a list of potential speaking topics. Want to learn more? Click here to submit a booking inquiry or to request additional information.


Dynamic, interactive presentations and workshops

Whether you're looking for a lecture for an audience of hundreds or an interactive workshop with an intimate feel for a small number of attendees, Dr. Lehmiller can design an event tailored to your organization. 

Reviews and Words of praise

“Engaging, charismatic” “Captivating” “Spellbinding”

“We have hosted Dr. Lehmiller multiple times with the Sexual Health Alliance in cities across the country. We can say with certainty that he is one of the most professional and informative Sexceptional Lecturers we have ever had the privilege of hosting. Dr. Lehmiller brings not only excellent research and knowledge, but he also capable of breaking down his research into digestible bites for any type of audience to consume. Dr. Lehmiller has the unique ability to present his research without bias or inflaming controversy. He is also easy going and flexible, qualities that are extremely valuable to those of us that put together conferences. Having spent time with him on the ski slopes, hiking and exploring the cities, we have the special honor to know him personally enough to state that he is also humble, down to earth and thoughtful. Thank you for supporting us in bringing expert education to all therapists, healthcare providers and sex nerds!” - Heather McPherson LPC-S, LMFT-S, CST, Founder of Sexual Health Alliance

“Dr. Lehmiller is an engaging, charismatic speaker and leader in his field. We were honored to have him as the keynote speaker for our Sexual Health and Intimate Relationship Wellness conference. He is extremely knowledgeable and brings a strong research background to his audience with sensitivity, courage, and professionalism. He is easy to work with and I was pleased to have the opportunity to speak with him about his research and his new book Tell Me What You Want.  I am looking forward to following his work. Thank you Dr. Lehmiller for providing a captivating start to our conference.” - Ann P. Turoczy, PhD, HS-BCP, ACS

“Our planning committee was thrilled that Dr. Lehmiller was available for the MOTE Conference this year. He gave a highly entertaining and informative presentation on cuckolding fantasies at our pre-conference event. The following day he provided the closing plenary for the conference, reflecting on the findings of his extensive surveys on sexual fantasies and their clinical implications. The presentations were rigorous and engaging. Justin is clearly the academic expert in this area, and he shared his research with humor and warmth. Beyond this, he was accessible to participants throughout the conference. Student and professional attendees gave his contributions the highest ratings, and we hope he can join us again.” - Braden Berkey, Psy.D. CSE, Director, Multiplicity of the Erotic Conference

"Dr. Lehmiller gave a wonderful talk on his new book on sexual fantasies, Tell Me What You Want, and was able to engage the audience in sharing and discussing this taboo topic openly. The discussion was informative, empowering, and helped us open the door to difficult conversations with our partners." - Courtney Cleman, Founder of The V. Club 

“Dr. Lehmiller is spellbinding and his research seductive. He delivered a smart, stylish, and engaging talk on the science of sexual fantasies that served every part of our audience, from the most seasoned sex researcher to the sexually curious. His findings set the room abuzz with conversation and speculation on a normally taboo topic, and transformed the way we think about kink.” - Diana Peragine, founder of the SEXposium Science Outreach Conference  


Recent and upcoming Public events

June 19, 2019 - Taking Pride in our Pleasure. TENGA Talks panel discussion at The Box NYC in New York City .

August 21, 2019 - Tell Me What You Want book signing and reading at East End Books in Provincetown, Massachusetts.

September 28-29, 2019 - Sexceptional Weekend Event in Albuquerque, New Mexico on the science of sexual fantasy and desire.


June 28, 2018 - Invited guest speaker at the Sexposium at the Royal Ontario Museum in Toronto. Presentation: "How We See Ourselves in Our Sexual Fantasies--And What It Means"

August 8, 2018 - Workshop at The V. Club in New York City entitled "Communicating Desire: Getting the Sex Life and Relationship You Want"

September 27, 2018 - Banned Books Week event “Too Much of a Good Thing” at the Kurt Vonnegut Museum and Library in Indianapolis. Invited speaker for a panel on sex “addiction” and the mental health issues facing sex workers.

October 16, 2018 - Workshop at The V. Club in New York City entitled "Monogamous, Monogamish, or Polyamorous: Which Type of Relationship is Right For You?"

October 19, 2018 - Keynote speaker at the Sexual Health, Intimate Relationships, and Wellness conference at Lehigh Carbon Community College. Presentation title: "Tell Me What You Want: How to Communicate Desire and Maintain a Healthy and Satisfying Sex Life"

October 26, 2018 - Invited lecture at Purdue University. Presentation title: "What Your Sexual Fantasies Say About Your Personality"

November 30-December 1, 2018 - Sexceptional Weekend Training Event in Denver, Colorado on the science of sexual desire. 

December 7-8, 2018 - Sexceptional Weekend Training Event in Austin, Texas on the science of sexual desire. 

December 11, 2018 - Workshop at The V. Club in New York City with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova entitled "The Mars/Venus Debate: Are Men and Women Really That Different When It Comes to Sex?"

January 19, 2019 - The Science of Sexual Fantasy: What Do We Want and What Do Our Fantasies Say About Us? Workshop in Detroit Michigan with the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. 

January 25-26, 2019 - Sexceptional Weekend Event in Dallas, Texas on the science of sexual desire

February 28, 2019 - Science on Tap event at Shoefly Public House in Indianapolis, Indiana.

May 3-4, 2019 - Sexceptional Weekend Event in Los Angeles, California on the science of sexual fantasy and desire.

May 10-11, 2019 - Sexceptional Weekend Event in Chicago, Illinois on the science of sexual fantasy and desire.

May 18, 2019 - The Science of Sexual Fantasy: What Do We Want and What Do Our Fantasies Say About Us? Workshop in New York City with the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. 

May 19, 2019 - Communicating Desire: Getting the Sex Life and Relationship You Want. Workshop in New York City with the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. 

May 24, 2019 - Keynote speaker at the Multiplicity of the Erotic Conference in Chicago, Illinois. Which Sexual Fantasies are Common, and Which Ones are Truly Rare?: Insights From the Largest Survey of Sexual Fantasies in the United States

May 31 - June 1, 2019 - Sexceptional Weekend Event in Seattle, Washington on the science of sexual fantasy and desire.


July 14, 2018 - Presentation at the International Association for Relationship Research Conference, Fort Collins, CO: Sharing and acting on sexual fantasies with a romantic partner: Does fantasy live up to reality? 

November 9, 2018 - Presentation at the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality meeting in Montreal, Quebec: How attitudes toward and experiences with threesomes are related to age, relationship status, and personality.


Speaking topics

Dr. Lehmiller can offer lectures or workshops on or around any of the following topics:

  • The keys to maintaining happy and healthy relationships

  • The laws of attraction: Successful dating, according to science

  • Intimate communication: How to improve your sexual communication skills

  • Sexual fantasies: What do we want? Where do our fantasies come from? And what do they say about us?

  • Designer relationships: Building the relationship that’s right for you

  • Polyamory and open relationships: Everything you ever wanted to know about consensual non-monogamy and “monogamish” relationships

  • Sexual orientation: Myth versus fact

  • Sexual consent in the 21st century

  • Preventing sexual harassment

  • Sexual assault prevention

  • Can friends with benefits stay friends?: How to navigate casual sex

  • Sexual health and safer sexual practices

  • Sex, dating, and relationships for the LGBTQ+ population

  • Alternative sexualities

  • Sex and relationships: Myth versus reality

  • Mars and Venus: Are men and women really that different when it comes to sex and love?

  • Adult sex education

  • What every college student should know about sex

  • How to talk to your kids about sex

Book Dr. Lehmiller For Your Next:

  • Keynote talk/address

  • Educational or corporate seminar

  • Product launch event

  • Industry trade show

  • Continuing education training

  • Conference presentation

  • University or college event

  • Women’s/Men’s interest group

  • LGBTQ+ interest group

  • Parenting group

  • Retreat