The Sexual Fantasies of People With Non-Binary Gender Identities

The Sexual Fantasies of People With Non-Binary Gender Identities

I have written quite a bit about similarities and differences in the sexual fantasies of self-identified men and women (see here for a summary).  Of course, however, not everyone identifies as male or female. So what do people who have non-binary gender identities (e.g., transgender, bigender, genderqueer) fantasize about? And how are they similar or different to those of self-identified men and women? 

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Are We Really in a “Sex Recession?”

Are We Really in a “Sex Recession?”

A recent study suggests that Americans are having less sex today than they were a quarter-century ago. These findings have received a lot of attention—I covered them on the blog when they were published in 2017, and they’ve been discussed in countless media articles around the world since, culminating in a widely read piece in The Atlantic last month, which took the results to mean that we’re in the midst of a “sex recession.”

But is that really the case?

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Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Pegging

Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Pegging

Anal activities have become increasingly popular in porn—and in people’s sex lives, too. For example, changes in Pornhub search trends reveal that queries for anal sex have increased by more than 100% in the last decade. At the same time, there’s been a sizeable increase in the number of men and women who say they’ve tried anal sex at least once before when you compare recent data to 1990s data.

Anal sex isn’t just one thing, though—people are exploring anal stimulation in multiple forms, from rimming to pegging. And if there’s a trend in anal sex right now, it seems to be pegging, an act that has been depicted and discussed with great frequency not just in porn, but also in pop culture.

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10 Myths About Sexual Orientation Debunked By Science

10 Myths About Sexual Orientation Debunked By Science

In recognition of June being LGBT Pride Month, I'll be running several LGBT-themed posts on the blog over the next few weeks. To start us off, let's debunk some of the most common myths and misconceptions about sexual orientation. 

1.) Homosexuality is contagious (i.e., you can "catch the gay"). Research has failed to find support for the idea that same sex attraction is transmitted through social contact. For example, a recent, large-scale study found that same-sex attraction does not spread within adolescent peer groups. Likewise, other research has found that gay parents are no more likely to raise gay children than their heterosexual counterparts.

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What A Decade Of Data From Pornhub Reveals About Our Sexual Interests

What A Decade Of Data From Pornhub Reveals About Our Sexual Interests

This year, Pornhub celebrated its tenth birthday. To commemorate the occasion, they released some fascinating data on trends in users’ viewing habits. Among other things, over 10 million videos have been posted on the site to date. Also, Pornhub now receives 75 million (!) visitors per day, and the average user spends about 10 minutes there per visit.

You can check out the full report here in all its glory; however, if you’re just after a few highlights and some analysis, keep on reading. Here are some of the things that stood out to me regarding the most popular porn genres on the site.

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Yes, Botox For Your Butt Is A Thing—But, No, It Doesn’t Cost $25,000

Yes, Botox For Your Butt Is A Thing—But, No, It Doesn’t Cost $25,000

For the last two days, articles about “anal Botox” have been blowing up my Facebook and Twitter feeds, with most of the headlines (like this one from Cosmo) saying something along the lines of “Anal Botox Is A Thing, And Costs Up to $25,000.” To me, the surprising thing about these headlines wasn’t that people were putting Botox in their butts, but what they were supposedly paying for it. Let me explain.

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10 Sexual Orientation Myths Debunked By Science

10 Sexual Orientation Myths Debunked By Science

In recognition of June being LGBT Pride Month, I'll be running several LGBT-themed posts on the blog in the coming weeks. Let's kick things off today by debunking some of the most common misconceptions and false beliefs about sexual orientation. 

1.) Homosexuality is contagious. Research has failed to find support for the idea that same sex attraction can be transmitted through social contact. For example, a recent, large-scale study found that same-sex attraction does not spread within adolescent peer groups. Likewise, other research has found that gay parents are no more likely to raise gay children than their heterosexual counterparts.

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10 Things You Should Know About Anal Sex

10 Things You Should Know About Anal Sex

As a sex educator, one of the topics I get asked about most often is anal sex. Given how curious people seem to be about this activity, I thought it would be worth putting together a brief guide that addresses some of the most common questions people have about anal sex. So, here goes:

1.) Anal sex is a very popular sexual activity in the United States today, with CDC research suggesting that close to one-half of men and about one-third of women have had anal intercourse before.

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Does Anal Sex “Count” As Sex?

Does Anal Sex “Count” As Sex?

What actually counts as “having sex?” Well, it depends who you ask. Different people have different definitions. A recent study published in the Journal of Sex Research highlights just how much variability there is when it comes to whether certain forms of anal stimulation count in the eyes of heterosexual adults.

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Your Biggest Questions About Anal Sex, Answered

Your Biggest Questions About Anal Sex, Answered

As someone who's in the business of sex education, I get asked sex questions all of the time. These questions cover every topic you can possibly imagine, with one of the most popular being anal sex. For example, I've received questions regarding how many people are doing itwhether women enjoy it, and how to make it more pleasurable, among other things. One anal sex question I haven't yet written about, though, is whether it can harm your body. Specifically, are receivers of anal sex likely to develop problems with their rear ends? This is a surprisingly common question and it turns out that there's not a lot of good scientifically-based information about it online, so I figured it was time for me to tackle it.

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The Sex Lives of Older Adults

The Sex Lives of Older Adults

A reader submitted the following question:

"How many people over age 50 are still having sex?"

Older adults are often assumed to be celibate, but the truth of the matter is that many of us remain sexually active for our entire lives.

As some evidence of this, let's consider findings from a recent, nationally representative U.S. survey of adults aged 14-94.

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Infographic: Sexual Behavior in the United States Today

Infographic: Sexual Behavior in the United States Today

How many American adults have ever had sex? And what kind(s) of sex have they had? For a look at the answers, check out the infographic below, which summarizes findings from the most recent wave of the National Survey of Family Growth. The prevalence of each sexual behavior assessed is reported separately for men and women. The numbers were very similar across the sexes, with one exception: reports of having ever engaged in same-sex behavior. Women were almost three times as likely to report this as men. See below for a closer look at the numbers.

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How Do College Students Define Sex?

How Do College Students Define Sex?

What does it actually mean to "have sex?" It depends who you ask. According to a new study published in the Journal of Sex Research, there is some pretty incredible variability in how college students personally define the term sex. There certainly seems to be a lot of agreement that things like vaginal and anal intercourse count as sex; however, students appear to be very split on whether things like oral sex and mutual masturbation count. It's also important to note that even behaviors such as breast stimulation and cybersex are viewed as sex by some folks. Check out the infographic below to learn more.

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Women’s Reasons For Having Anal Sex

Women’s Reasons For Having Anal Sex

Anal sex is a sexual activity that is frequently reported by both men and women in America. For instance, a recent CDC survey reported that 44% of men and 36% of women in the U.S. have had anal sex at least once before in their lives. Despite the prevalence of this sexual activity, relatively little research has explored people’s motivations for trying it or what the experience is like, especially among heterosexual women. A new study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior offers a rare look into some of the reasons women report for having anal sex and their perceptions of the activity itself. 

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Sex Question Friday: How Can We Make Anal Sex More Pleasurable?

Sex Question Friday: How Can We Make Anal Sex More Pleasurable?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a male reader who wanted to know more about the topic of anal sex:

“My girlfriend and I both really want to try anal sex, but every time we do, we stop almost immediately because she says it’s too painful. Are we doing something wrong? Is there anything we can try to make it pleasurable instead of painful for her?

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Sex Question Friday: How Popular Is Anal Sex In America?

Sex Question Friday: How Popular Is Anal Sex In America?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader who wanted to know the following:

“How many Americans are having anal sex?”

Good question! Anal sex appears to be quite popular in this country. And although this activity is most commonly associated with gay men, many heterosexuals practice it too.

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Sex Question Friday: Do Women Enjoy Anal Sex?

Sex Question Friday: Do Women Enjoy Anal Sex?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from reader who wanted to know how many women have experienced anal sex and their perceptions of this activity.

How many women have had anal sex? Is it possible for a woman to enjoy it and even orgasm from it? Or do women just have anal sex because they feel pressure from their partners?

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What Counts? College Students' Definitions Of Abstinence (Infographic)

What does it mean to be "abstinent?" It depends who you ask. A recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior finds that there is incredible variability in people's personal definitions of the term abstinence. While people almost universally agree that abstinence allows for kissing, they are split over whether activities such as sexual touching and oral sex are permitted. Interestingly, people do not even agree on whether abstinence necessarily excludes the possibility of having sexual intercourse! Check out the infographic below for more information.
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Is The Origami Condom The Future Of Safe And Pleasurable Sex?

"We have a product that is safe and effective, but underutilized. What if we could develop a condom that would provide all the benefit of our current versions, without the drawbacks? Even better, what if we could develop one that was preferred to no condom?"- The Gates Foundation

Source: OrigamiCondoms.comEarlier this year, the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation announced that they were offering a $100,000 grant to anyone with credible plans to develop the “next generation condom.” Why do we need to reinvent the wheel when it comes to safe sex? Because condoms are not as widely utilized as they should be. Many people forego safe sex because they perceive that condoms will decrease their sexual pleasure. Therefore, if we could develop a condom that felt just as good as unprotected sex, it could have a major impact on rates of sexually transmitted infections and unintended pregnancies. As it turns out, we may not be that far away from such an invention.

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How Many Straight People Are Having “Gay Sex?”

It is a widely held belief that anal sex is “gay sex.” In other words, people tend to assume that anal sex is an activity practiced almost exclusively by gay men. However, this is not an accurate reflection of reality. In fact, research suggests that not only has anal sex become increasingly common among heterosexual men and women, but the vast majority of people who practice it are not gay.
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