Sex Question Friday: Is It Normal To Fantasize About Your Partner Having Sex With Someone Else?

Sex Question Friday: Is It Normal To Fantasize About Your Partner Having Sex With Someone Else?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a female reader who wanted to know the following:

Is it normal behavior to masturbate while thinking of your partner with someone else? My partner of 6 years cheated on me with a female friend of mine, who tried coming on to me two days prior to their sexual escapade. I knew this woman was bi-sexual, but I don't swing that way. Or so I thought, since then I have been masturbating to the thought of the two of them having sex. Is that normal?”

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Cuckold Fantasies: Not Your Typical Threesome

Cuckold Fantasies: Not Your Typical Threesome

A surprising number of heterosexual married men have so-called "cuckold fantasies," meaning that they find the prospect of watching their wives have sex with other guys to be sexually arousing (the word "cuckold" literally means a man whose wife is cheating on him, hence the name). In psychological terms, these fantasies are sometimes referred to as troilism, a term some think is derived from the word “trois,” as in “ménage a trois.” In a way, this makes sense--we are talking about a threesome of sorts, just not the kind most people associate with straight men. So just how common are cuckold fantasies and why do so many guys have them? These are the questions I sought to answer in a recent article I wrote for Playboy

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