Financial Domination and Money Masochism (Video)

Financial Domination and Money Masochism (Video)

Financial domination (or findom, as it's known for short) is an uncommon sexual interest in which people--usually men--find it arousing to be "forced" to give their hard-earned money to a dominant partner who will do with it as they please. The guys who part with their dough are often referred to as "cash slaves" or "pay pigs" and what they're really getting off on is the fact that they're giving up power and letting someone else control them. There's not necessarily even any sex involved in these relationships because the arousing part is the feeling they get from having someone else in control of their finances.

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Traditional Gender Role Beliefs May Limit Sexual Satisfaction and Safe Sex Practices

Traditional gender roles dictate that men should be dominant and women should be submissive when it comes to matters of sex. For centuries, people around the world have bought into these ideas. However, a new study finds that people who subscribe to such beliefs may have less ability to obtain sexual satisfaction, as well as a reduced likelihood of practicing female-controlled methods of safe sex.
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A Top Ten List of Men’s Sexual Fantasies: Football, Threesomes, Star Wars and More

A Top Ten List of Men’s Sexual Fantasies: Football, Threesomes, Star Wars and More

I recently posted an article about how men’s and women’s sexual fantasies differ. As I mentioned in that piece, men’s fantasies tend to be sexually explicit, frequently include multiple partners, and often express themes of dominance and submission. To demonstrate some evidence of this and explore men’s fantasy content in a little more detail, I have prepared a Top Ten List of sexual fantasies than guys have anonymously submitted to me over the years. As you’ll see when reading this list, threesomes are (not surprisingly) perhaps the most commonly desired scenario. However, you’ll also notice that men’s fantasies frequently include trying new things, breaking social taboos, and combining sex with their true loves: football, food, and Star Wars. Enjoy!

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How Do Men’s and Women’s Sexual Fantasies Differ?

How Do Men’s and Women’s Sexual Fantasies Differ?
A few weeks back, I posted a Top 10 List of Sexual Fantasies, which contained a set of fun fantasies people have anonymously submitted to me over the years. As you read through the list, you probably found that it was easy to identify which fantasies were written by men (e.g., “Hot tub filled with whipped cream, pudding, and multiple blondes) and which were written by women (e.g., “We're out for a drive in the country and it starts to rain. We pull into the driveway at home and my partner pulls me into the barn, where we make love on a bale of hay as the rain continues outside”). A few fantasies were more challenging to place, but the majority of them were pretty simple because they largely conformed to gender stereotypes. So is this typically the case when it comes to sexual fantasies? Are men's and women's fantasies really that different?
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