From Friends With Benefits To Threesomes, How Single Americans Feel About Sex (Infographic)

From Friends With Benefits To Threesomes, How Single Americans Feel About Sex (Infographic)

How many single adults in the United States have had a friends with benefits relationship? How many are open to the idea of having a threesome? And what do they think the characteristics of both good and bad sex are? For a look at the answers to these questions, check out the infographic below, which reviews selected results from Match.com's eighth annual Singles in America survey. This survey featured a large, demographically representative sample of single people living in the US who were surveyed about their sexual attitudes. 

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What No One Ever Told You About People Who Are Single (Video)

What No One Ever Told You About People Who Are Single (Video)

Even though the marriage rate in the United States recently hit an all-time low, most Americans still view the institution positively and consider it to be the ideal relationship state. Why? It is deeply embedded in our culture that a monogamous marriage--finding "the one"--is the key to happiness and meaning in life, while being single is just lonely and sad. As it turns out, however, a lot of what we've been told about marriage just isn't true.

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Do People Get Better Looking When The Bar Is About To Close?

“Ain't it funny, ain't it strange the way a man's opinions change when he starts to face that lonely night.” – Lyrics from the song “Don’t the Girls All Get Prettier at Closing Time” by Mickey Gilley

What happens when something is only available for a short period of time or exists in limited quantities? We want it. Badly. That’s why advertisements and infomercials are always telling you to “act now, before time runs out” if you want to get your hands on the latest, overpriced, completely unnecessary product they’re selling. However, the illusion of scarcity and its effects are not unique to the world of business—scarcity may also affect how we perceive potential sexual and romantic partners. As some evidence of this, consider a classic study on the so-called “closing time effect,” or the idea that everyone gets better looking when the bar is about to close because the window of opportunity for finding someone to take home dwindles.

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Sex Question Friday: Why Is Being Single So Stigmatized?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader of the blog who wanted to know why society seems to treat single people so unfairly.  

Why do people always ask “what’s wrong with you?” when they find out I’m single?

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Ovulating Women Fantasize About Sex More Often

There is a growing body of research indicating that women’s sexuality changes as they near ovulation. For example, ovulating women tend to dress in sexier clothes and reveal more skin [1], which may help to explain why female exotic dancers earn bigger tips during the fertile phase of their menstrual cycle! A new study suggests that ovulation may also change how often women think about sex and the content of their sexual fantasies [2].
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Sex Question Friday: Do Committed Couples Have Better Sex? Does the “Pull and Pray” Method Work? And Can You Change Your Sexuality?

Sex Question Friday: Do Committed Couples Have Better Sex? Does the “Pull and Pray” Method Work? And Can You Change Your Sexuality?
Every Friday on the blog, I answer a few burning sex questions submitted to me by actual college students. This week, we’re talking about whether married couples have better sex than single people, whether the pull-out method of birth control actually works, and whether it’s possible to change your sexual orientation if you don't like it.
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Are Women's Economic Gains Also Their Romantic Losses?

"American women as a whole have never been confronted with such a radically shrinking pool of what are traditionally considered to be ‘marriageable’ men—those who are better educated and earn more than they do. So women are now contending with what we might call the new scarcity." [1] 

In a provocative piece entitled “All the Single Ladies” in a recent issue of The Atlantic, author Kate Bolick argues that the financial and educational gains made by women in the past few years (coupled with corresponding financial and educational losses among men) are altering the dating and mating marketplace. Bolick suggests that successful women are now confronted with a growing scarcity of good quality men, which is increasingly leading women to go it alone. Bolick’s claims are certainly provocative and intriguing, but before we draw too many conclusions, we should give these ideas a closer look.

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