There’s Just One Problem With Suppressing Sexual Thoughts—It Doesn’t Work

There’s Just One Problem With Suppressing Sexual Thoughts—It Doesn’t Work

Let’s say you have a sexual fantasy about something—or someone—you’re not “supposed” to do, perhaps because it conflicts with the teachings of your religion. When a thought about this pops into your head, what do you do?

One of the most common responses people have to unwanted thoughts is to actively suppress them. While this may work in the short term as a means of reducing these thoughts, unfortunately, it’s not a very effective strategy for clearing your mind of them. As it turns out, suppressing a given thought just makes us think about it more in the long run.

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Sex Question Friday: How Many Times Per Day Do People Think About Sex?

Sex Question Friday: How Many Times Per Day Do People Think About Sex?

A reader submitted the following question:

"How many times a day does the average person think about sex? Do guys really think about it a lot more than girls?"

Thanks for these really interesting questions! For the answer, let's take a look at a 2012 study published in the Journal of Sex Research in which 283 U.S. college students aged 18-25 were asked to track their thoughts about sex over the course of a week. The results reveal that men think about sex less and women think about sex more than most people probably assume.

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