The Sexual Fantasies of People With Non-Binary Gender Identities

The Sexual Fantasies of People With Non-Binary Gender Identities

I have written quite a bit about similarities and differences in the sexual fantasies of self-identified men and women (see here for a summary).  Of course, however, not everyone identifies as male or female. So what do people who have non-binary gender identities (e.g., transgender, bigender, genderqueer) fantasize about? And how are they similar or different to those of self-identified men and women? 

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My Favorite Story About the History of the Vibrator Isn't True

My Favorite Story About the History of the Vibrator Isn't True

About a decade ago, I came across a book entitled The Technology of Orgasm by Rachel Maines. It quickly became one of my favorites on the history of sex because it presented a fascinating and scandalous story behind how the vibrator came to be such a popular device—a story that appeared to be grounded in rigorous academic research. It turns out that there’s a major problem with this story, though: it’s not true.

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Americans' Attitudes Toward and Experiences with Sex Toys and Sexual Media (Infographic)

Americans' Attitudes Toward and Experiences with Sex Toys and Sexual Media (Infographic)

To date, most national sex surveys in America have focused on people's attitudes toward and experiences with a relatively narrow range of sexual behaviors, namely: vaginal intercourse, oral sex, anal sex, and masturbation. As a result, we now have a pretty good idea as to how many people have engaged in those activities. However, this provides only a very limited understanding of Americans' sexuality because there are numerous other ways that people might express themselves sexually. Fortunately, a new study published in the journal PLOS ONE offers some insight into various other forms of sexual expression. The infographic below takes a look at Americans' interest in and experiences with sex toys and sexual media (think pornography, sexting, etc.) specifically.

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4 Things You Should Know About Vibrators

4 Things You Should Know About Vibrators

Vibrators are one of the most popular sex toys in the world. They are ubiquitous in sex shops, not to mention on the internet—and you can get them in virtually any size, shape, or color desired. In this post, let’s take a look at what we know about vibrators, including who’s using them, as well as the impact that vibrators are having on our sex lives.

1.) Believe it or not, the first vibrator was developed as a therapeutic treatment device for women who had been diagnosed with a bogus medical condition known as “hysteria.”

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6 Resolutions For Better Sex In The New Year

6 Resolutions For Better Sex In The New Year

Every time a new year rolls around, people start making resolutions for self-improvement--you know, like losing weight, getting your spending under control, or finally giving up smoking. As you ponder your own resolutions, let me give you one more worth considering: resolve to have better sex this year.

Not sure where to start? When in doubt, do what I do and take a cue from science. Here are six scientifically-backed suggestions for enhancing your sex life in 2017.

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5 Unintended Ways Pokemon GO is Changing Our Sex Lives

5 Unintended Ways Pokemon GO is Changing Our Sex Lives

If you’re anything like me, your newsfeed has probably been dominanted with articles about the popular gaming app Pokémon GO for the past few weeks. Most of the stories to emerge so far have focused on how this augmented reality game is affecting the everyday lives of users. For instance, among other things, it is helping many folks to get more exercise and lose weight, which is great. At the same time, though, it has also (sadly) contributed to at least a few cases of distracted driving that ended in car crashes.

However, one thing you may not have heard much about yet is how Pokémon GO is affecting people's sex lives. Yep, you read that right.

As you'll see below, there have been a number of rather surprising sexual implications of the Pokémon GO phenomenon that the creators of the game probably never anticipated.

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The 5 Most Unusual Sex Toys You’ve Probably Never Heard Of

The 5 Most Unusual Sex Toys You’ve Probably Never Heard Of

During the last few decades, sex toys have undergone a major transformation. Manufacturers have gone from producing toys with extremely utilitarian designs to those that pay a lot of attention to aesthetics in an attempt to provide a more lifelike look and feel. But that’s not the only way sex toys have changed. Sex toy manufacturers have increasingly begun to develop products that cater to persons with all kinds of unusual sexual interests. In this article, we’ll take a look at five of the more, um, interesting sex toys I’ve ever come across.

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Sex Question Friday: Can You Get An STI From Sharing A Sex Toy?

Sex Question Friday: Can You Get An STI From Sharing A Sex Toy?

A reader submitted the following question:

"Is it safe to share sex toys with other people as long as you clean them up well, or do you still need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases?"

Thanks for this great question! Sexual health experts have long encouraged people to clean vibrators and other sex toys thoroughly before and after sharing them; however, until recently, no one had ever studied whether this advice was sound. That is, does cleaning a shared sex toy between uses really make it safe? According to a recent study, it's not as safe as you might think.

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The Vibrator Alarm Clock Promises To Make You A Morning Person

The Vibrator Alarm Clock Promises To Make You A Morning Person

The fun and always fascinating world of teledildonics (i.e., computerized sex toys) continues to yield lots of new, exciting, and entertaining developments. One of the latest is a sex toy that is designed to help wake you up in the morning. That's right--a vibrator that also doubles as an alarm clock. If you aren't a morning person, then this product may be just want you need to change that. 

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A Brief History Of The Vibrator

A Brief History Of The Vibrator

If you have ever been to a sex shop (or browsed one online), you have probably noticed that vibrators come in all different sizes, shapes, and colors. In addition, you may have noticed that some are designed to stimulate different parts of the genitals, and that some are designed to be used by individuals and others by couples. Such incredible diversity in sex toys wasn’t always the case, though. The vibrator has evolved significantly over time in terms of its appearance, purpose, and intended audience. In this article, we will take a look at the fascinating and “hysterical” history of what is perhaps the world’s most popular sex toy: the vibrator.

 

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Sex Question Friday: How Can We Make Anal Sex More Pleasurable?

Sex Question Friday: How Can We Make Anal Sex More Pleasurable?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a male reader who wanted to know more about the topic of anal sex:

“My girlfriend and I both really want to try anal sex, but every time we do, we stop almost immediately because she says it’s too painful. Are we doing something wrong? Is there anything we can try to make it pleasurable instead of painful for her?

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6 Fascinating Ways Technology Is Changing Our Sex Lives

6 Fascinating Ways Technology Is Changing Our Sex Lives

Over the last few years, we have increasingly incorporated technology into our sex lives. For instance, people are using cameras and computers to create their own amateur porn and share it with the world, they’re engaging in cybersex and sexting, and they’re using apps with GPS functionality to locate nearby sex partners. However, these are just a few of the many ways that technology and sex are interfacing today. In this post, I’d like to take you on a tour of some of the most interesting new "sexnological" developments.

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Sex Question Friday: Is It Normal For Guys To Use Vibrators?

Sex Question Friday: Is It Normal For Guys To Use Vibrators?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader who wanted to know the following:

“Is it normal for guys to use vibrators or other sex toys?”

Great question! However, I’m going to answer by focusing on whether vibrator and sex toy use is “common” among men instead of focusing on whether it’s “normal.” My reason for saying this is because I don’t want to turn this into a discussion about whether you should or shouldn’t be using sex toys. In my view, that’s something that you and (if applicable) your partner should decide for yourselves based on what you’re comfortable with. After all, you can have a great sex life with or without the addition of toys.

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Is It Safe To Share Sex Toys?

Is It Safe To Share Sex Toys?

Sex toys have become incredibly popular in recent years. Just consider this: national U.S. survey data reveal that 52.5% of women and 44.8% of men report having used a vibrator during sexual activity at least once before! Although some people only use vibrators by themselves (e.g., during masturbation), others share sex toys with their partners. In order to prevent the spread of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), sexual health experts have long encouraged people to clean vibrators and other sex toys thoroughly before and after sharing them. To date, however, no one has ever studied the soundness of this advice—that is, does cleaning a shared sex toy between uses really make it safe? According to newly published research, not as safe as you might think.

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Sex Question Friday: Can A Woman Become Sexually Dependent On Her Vibrator?

Sex Question Friday: Can A Woman Become Sexually Dependent On Her Vibrator?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader who wanted to know whether women who use vibrators regularly during masturbation can become “dependent” upon sex toys to reach orgasm:

“Do you know of any research or have an opinion about routinely using a vibrator during masturbation? I'm worried that I'll become too dependent on my vibrator and I'm seeing that I'm having a harder time orgasming during sex with my husband. Is there any guidance or suggestions about breaking up the routine of vibrator use during masturbation? Lately I use a vibrator every time. I have a very hard time climaxing without some sort of external stimulation during masturbation. If not a vibrator, I usually have to read an erotic story or watch a sexy video.  Should I try some days with just reading an erotic story and no vibrator? Does it even matter?”

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Remote-Controlled Underwear Can Let Your Partner In Your Pants Anywhere

Remote-Controlled Underwear Can Let Your Partner In Your Pants Anywhere

The hottest trend in sex toys right now is teledildonics. If this word is new to your vocabulary, it refers to electronic sex toys that can be controlled by computers and smartphones. A number of these devices have hit the market in recent years, but the one everyone is talking about right now is a set of panties with a built-in vibrator that can be controlled by a smartphone via Bluetooth.

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Remote-Controlled Underwear Allows You To Stay “In Touch” With Your Lover Anywhere

The fascinating world of “teledildonics” (i.e., sex toys that can be controlled remotely via a computer or smartphone) continues to grow in ways that many of us never thought possible. For example, last year brought us the invention of LovePalz, a sex toy that senses your body’s movements and wirelessly relays them to your partner’s corresponding toy. So much for phone sex! The latest addition to the teledildonics family is Fundawear, a set of remote-controlled undergarments produced by condom manufacturer Durex.
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Remote-Controlled Sex Toys Add A Whole New Dimension To Phone Sex

A persistent lack of physical intimacy has always been one of the greatest challenges facing the partners involved in long-distance romantic relationships. While they can indeed have phone sex and cybersex, anyone who has been in one of these relationships will tell you that it is not quite the same [1]. However, recent advances in sex toy technology (known as "teledildonics" to you techies) may soon change all of this.
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The History Of Motorized Sex Toys

The History Of Motorized Sex Toys
Believe it or not, human beings have been making sex toys since the Stone Age. Dildos, Ben Wa balls, and various other devices to aid in sexual pleasure have a surprisingly long (and quite interesting) history. However, out of all of the different sex toys that have ever been created, one in particular stands out for having a most unique and "hysterical" backstory: the vibrator. In this post, I will not only share the origin of motorized sex toys, but I will also take you on a tour of some of the latest “pocket rockets."
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A Top Ten List Of Wacky Sex Laws

A Top Ten List Of Wacky Sex Laws
For centuries, governments have gone to great lengths to regulate people’s sex lives. As just a couple of prime examples, bans on contraception, sex before marriage, and same-sex activity were the law of the land throughout most of the United States and many other parts of the world until recently. But these are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the government telling you what you can and cannot do in the bedroom. Below are ten of the most interesting and, of course, humorous sex laws I’ve ever heard of. As you’ll see, some of the laws are even weirder when you think about what they don’t say. Now, given that I’m not a legal scholar, I can’t necessarily vouch for the current status of these laws or whether they can still be enforced—all I can tell you is that I’ve seen them appear in multiple news stories over the years. Enjoy—but don’t enjoy so much that you land yourself in prison!
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