Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week, I’m answering two related questions that come up pretty regularly in my Human Sexuality course:
How much sex is too much sex?
How much is too much masturbation?
Makes me feel so fine, helps me relieve my mind, sexual healing baby, it’s good for me. – Marvin Gaye
The idea that sex can relieve stress for couples is pervasive in popular culture. For example, most of you have probably heard the classic song Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye. Many of you have probably also seen television shows and movies that feature storylines about the wonders of “makeup sex” following a couple's argument (which, according to Jerry Seinfeld, is the second best type of sex you can have after “conjugal visit sex”). So is there any truth to this idea? Is sex really a stress-reliever? According to a new study, yes—but only for couples who are in satisfying relationships to begin with .
In lieu of answering sex questions this Friday, I’m posting a Top 10 list of sexual fantasies that people have anonymously submitted to me over the years. It’s sort of like my own version of Post Secret, except that people only tell me their sex fantasies. The fantasies below are not necessarily the most common ones I’ve received—they’re just fantasies I found interesting and decided to share. As you read them, try and guess whether they were written by men or by women. The answers are included at the end of the post so that you can test your “sexpertise.” As you’ll see, sometimes it's pretty easy, but it's not always as obvious as it seems. In the coming weeks, I’ll post an article about scientific research on sex fantasies to help you better understand gender differences in fantasy content, as well as why we fantasize in the first place. Until then, enjoy!Read More