When it comes to what men and women want in a romantic partner, they’re stereotyped as wanting drastically different things. However, research suggests that they actually have a lot in common.Read More
Survey research has consistently found that men and women differ in the degree to which they desire certain traits in their romantic partners, with men placing relatively more value on physical attractiveness and women placing relatively more value on status and wealth. These findings have often been explained in evolutionary terms (which you can read more about here). In light of this, one might naturally assume that these stated mate preferences would predict the characteristics of the persons that men and women actually express interest in; however, research suggests that this is not necessarily the case. In fact, our stated partner preferences might say relatively little about who we’re attracted to in real life.Read More
Evolutionary psychologists believe that men and women have evolved fundamentally different mating strategies in order to maximize the chances of passing along their genes to future generations. It is theorized that men developed a tendency to pursue short-term sexual encounters with young and curvy women, whereas women developed a tendency to hold out for long-term relationships with reliable men who have the resources necessary to take care of them and any offspring they might produce . There is a substantial amount of research supporting the idea that men and women are looking for different things in their mates and these preferences generally fall along the lines predicted by this theory; however, a recent set of studies suggests that these tendencies are so deeply ingrained that we may have even developed a preference for popular media that reinforces these sexual strategies.Read More
Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader of the blog who wanted to know whether there’s any science to back up the techniques promoted by professional pick-up artists.
Have you read 'The Game' by Neil Strauss? In the book, Neil learns that (among other things) he needs to dress well, and with style, to get the ladies. It's advice that's common enough. But what, if any, is the evolutionary appeal to favor men who can dress well? Also I'd love to hear your thoughts on seduction/pickup-artistry/The Game.