Sex Question Friday: I Fantasize About Men, But I Enjoy Kissing Women. Am I Bisexual?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader who is struggling with how to label her sexuality.

I have always defined myself as a heterosexual woman. My general "fantasies" are about men. However, my first real kiss was with a girl. I’m now in my 30s and feel weird to be unsure of my sexual identity at this stage of my life, but the truth is I am going to love who I want to love. It could be a man who makes me feel like I am the only woman in the world or it could be an awesome woman. Day to day that changes, and in my head it has nothing to do with their anatomy and everything to do with their personality. My ultimate goal is that I find someone to love me for me and I will love them for them. I really don't care if you are a man or a woman if you make my day better and I do the same for you...isn't that all that matters? So what does that make me? If I need a label on my sexuality, what should it be? I’m just not sure if bisexual is the right term.

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Are Homophobic People Repressing Their Own Same-Sex Desires?

Are Homophobic People Repressing Their Own Same-Sex Desires?

The idea that homophobia stems from fears of one’s own homosexuality has received a lot of public validation in recent years. From evangelical preacher Ted Haggard to former U.S. Senator Larry Craig to psychologist George Reckers (one of the leading proponents of “reparative therapy,” a discredited method some people claim is capable of “curing” homosexuality), some of those who have been fighting hardest against LGBT rights have wound up embroiled in gay sex scandals of their own. Naturally, many of us wonder why. Research suggests that, in some cases, this type of hypocrisy may be traced to the way these individuals were raised by their parents [1].

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Sex Question Friday: Do Committed Couples Have Better Sex? Does the “Pull and Pray” Method Work? And Can You Change Your Sexuality?

Sex Question Friday: Do Committed Couples Have Better Sex? Does the “Pull and Pray” Method Work? And Can You Change Your Sexuality?
Every Friday on the blog, I answer a few burning sex questions submitted to me by actual college students. This week, we’re talking about whether married couples have better sex than single people, whether the pull-out method of birth control actually works, and whether it’s possible to change your sexual orientation if you don't like it.
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