What Do Sadists and Masochists Actually Do In Bed?

What Do Sadists and Masochists Actually Do In Bed?

In my last article, I discussed the prevalence of sexual sadism and masochism based upon results from the latest Reader Survey. This survey revealed that 50% of readers reported experiences with sadism (i.e., deriving sexual pleasure from giving pain) and 51% with masochism (i.e., deriving sexual pleasure from receiving pain). The goal of this article is to explore in more depth and detail how sadomasochism is actually experienced among readers who completed the survey. Specifically, what type of pain was most common (physical vs. psychological), and how intense was it? And what types of sadomasochistic acts were practiced most frequently?

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How Common Are Sexual Sadism and Masochism?

How Common Are Sexual Sadism and Masochism?

Results from the latest Reader Survey are in and, as usual, they’re absolutely fascinating! The most recent survey inquired about experiences with what have traditionally been considered paraphilic behaviors (i.e., sexual behaviors that are unusual or uncommon). Although this survey asked about a variety of paraphilic behaviors, what I want to focus on here are readers’ experiences with sexual sadism and masochism. Before we get to the results, let me first clarify that when I say “paraphilic behaviors,” I do not mean “disordered behaviors.” The fact of the matter is that you can have an uncommon sexual interest and still be a perfectly healthy person.

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How Many People Are Using Their Smartphones During Sex?

How Many People Are Using Their Smartphones During Sex?

A recent survey of over 2,000 adult Americans revealed that, among smartphone users,1 in 10 reported having used their phone during sex. Naturally, this made me curious about what people are actually doing with their phones when they’re between the sheets. Are they taking videos or photos? Answering calls or texts? “Checking in” on Facebook? Something else? I decided to conduct an informal survey of readers of the blog to find out.

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A Top 10 List Of Readers’ Sexual Fantasies: Fetish Parties, Forests, Science Fiction, And More

A Top 10 List Of Readers’ Sexual Fantasies: Fetish Parties, Forests, Science Fiction, And More

Research has found that sexual fantasies are common for people of all genders and sexual orientations. However, there is a lot of variability in what people fantasize about. As some evidence of this, let’s look at a sampling of sexual fantasies submitted by readers of The Psychology of Human Sexuality. If you would like to submit your fantasy for potential inclusion in a future Top 10 List, check out the Reader Survey tab at the top of this page where you can report your information anonymously and participate in a brief sex survey. Thanks to all who submitted for this edition!

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Reader Survey Results: How Do You Feel About Non-Monogamy?

Reader Survey Results: How Do You Feel About Non-Monogamy?

Results from The Psychology of Human Sexuality’s second Reader Survey are in! Today, we will be taking a look at your views on the subject of consensual non-monogamy (i.e., relationships in which both partners consent to allowing each other to have sex with outside partners).

Let’s begin with a look at the overall sample.

 

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Do People Who Watch More Porn Have A Worse Sex Life?

Results of The Psychology of Human Sexuality’s first Reader Survey are in! Today, I will present the first round of results, focusing specifically on the associations between amount of Internet pornography viewed, frequency of sexual activity, and sexual satisfaction. We will also address the question of how many times per week readers of this site have sex.
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Fantasy Friday: A Top 10 List of Readers’ Sexual Fantasies

Sexual fantasies are part of a normal and healthy sex life. The vast majority of people report fantasizing about sex at least occasionally, and more frequent sexual fantasizing is linked to having better sex [1]. However, the content of people’s sexual fantasies varies considerably and is a topic most of us find “fascinating” to explore in its own right. This week, I’m sharing a list of sexual fantasies submitted exclusively by readers of The Psychology of Human Sexuality. As you'll see, the content varies considerably. And although research has found that fantasies tend to conform to gender stereotypes, this list reveals at least a few exceptions.
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