Do People’s Sexual Fantasies Differ Depending on Their Race or Ethnicity?

Do People’s Sexual Fantasies Differ Depending on Their Race or Ethnicity?

I surveyed 4,175 Americans about their sexual fantasies for my book Tell Me What You Want. Since this book came out, one of the more common questions I’ve been asked about (both online and at speaking engagements) is the role that race plays in people’s sex fantasies. Specifically, do persons of color tend to have similar or different fantasies to those of White individuals? Let’s take a look at what my data say.

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The Most Fantasized About Male and Female Celebrities

The Most Fantasized About Male and Female Celebrities

Who’s your celebrity crush? I surveyed more than 4,000 American adults about their sexual fantasies for my book Tell Me What You Want and, among other things, I asked them who they were fantasizing about. In the images below, I focus on fantasies about the rich and famous and present the results separately for male and female celebs.

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Fact Check: Are There Really Racial Differences In Penis Size?

Fact Check: Are There Really Racial Differences In Penis Size?

The question of whether there are racial differences in penis size is one that has been notoriously difficult to answer with any degree of scientific certainty. The problem has been that studies of penis size are usually fraught with problems. For one thing, there’s the question of who’s doing the measuring—the participant himself or a trained researcher? The concern, of course, is that guys will be generous when measuring themselves and/or will perform the measurements inconsistently. Then there’s the issue of participant selection effects—are men of a larger size more inclined to participate in such studies? In short (no pun intended), there’s reason to be cautious about drawing sweeping conclusions from the research in this area.

That said, recent studies support the idea that race-based differences in penis size may exist.

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Who’s Most Likely To Have A Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationship?

Who’s Most Likely To Have A Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationship?

Consensually non-monogamous (CNM) relationships are those in which all of the partners involved agree to have sexual and/or romantic relationships with other persons. This can take many forms, from swinging to polyamory to cuckolding to open relationships. Research suggests that approximately one-fifth of Americans have previously been in some type of CNM relationship, whereas about 5% are currently in such a relationship.

Who’s most likely to have experience with consensual non-monogamy? Are there certain demographic traits or characteristics linked to this relationship practice? A recent review paper published in the journal Current Sexual Health Reports explored this very question. Here’s what the authors found:

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Americans’ Attitudes Toward Bisexuals: Results From a National Survey

Americans’ Attitudes Toward Bisexuals: Results From a National Survey

Researchers and public polling firms alike have extensively surveyed Americans about their attitudes toward gays and lesbians in recent years. The results of their work have shown that attitudes toward homosexuality have become far more favorable over time. Unfortunately, however, in almost all of these surveys, attitudes toward bisexuals have been neglected. As a result, we don’t really know that much about what Americans' attitudes toward bisexuality look like today, nor can we say much about the degree to which they might have changed over time.

Fortunately, a new study published in the journal PLOS ONE offers some insight.

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Would Your Ideal Relationship Be Monogamous Or Open? 1,000 Americans Weigh In

Would Your Ideal Relationship Be Monogamous Or Open? 1,000 Americans Weigh In

Would your ideal relationship be completely monogamous, completely open, or somewhere in between? One thousand Americans adults were recently asked this question as part of a national YouGov survey and the results were fascinating.

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Infographic: Sexual Behavior in the United States Today

Infographic: Sexual Behavior in the United States Today

How many American adults have ever had sex? And what kind(s) of sex have they had? For a look at the answers, check out the infographic below, which summarizes findings from the most recent wave of the National Survey of Family Growth. The prevalence of each sexual behavior assessed is reported separately for men and women. The numbers were very similar across the sexes, with one exception: reports of having ever engaged in same-sex behavior. Women were almost three times as likely to report this as men. See below for a closer look at the numbers.

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Sex Question Friday: How Deep Is The Average Vagina?

Sex Question Friday: How Deep Is The Average Vagina?

A reader submitted the following question:

"How deep is a typical vagina? I hear a lot about penis size, but what about vagina size? Does size vary across nations?"

Thanks for these great questions! You're absolutely right that vaginal size is a topic that hasn't been discussed or researched nearly as often as penis size; however, there is some data out there that can speak to your questions.

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Sex Question Friday: Are There Racial Differences In Penis Size?

Sex Question Friday: Are There Racial Differences In Penis Size?

"Is it true that men of certain races have bigger penises?" This is one of the most frequently asked questions I've encountered in all of my years teaching college level Human Sexuality courses. Unfortunately, however, it's a very difficult question to answer with any degree of certainty. As discussed in previous articles, studies of penis size are typically fraught with problems. For one thing, different methods of data collection can lead to wildly different conclusions (e.g., who is doing the measuring: the participant or a trained researcher?). Not only that, but there is likely a big selection effect in studies about such a sensitive topic (i.e., perhaps only men who are more comfortable with their penis size will opt to participate). As a result, we need to take most studies in this area with a grain of salt.

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Should Newlyweds Promise “Till Death Do Us Part” Or “For About 20 Years?”

Most of us have attended weddings before where the couple getting married explicitly promised to love each other “till death do us part.” And if you’re anything like me, you probably thought to yourself “yeah, that’ll happen” at least once, not necessarily because you are pessimistic or jealous (or maybe you are), but because you know all too well that a large number of marriages just don’t go on forever. So what’s a realistic expectation for how long a new marriage will last these days? New research suggests that, among heterosexuals, most people would be pretty fortunate to have a 20-year partnership [1].
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