Sex Question Friday: Do Pick-Up Artists Really Know What They’re Talking About?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader of the blog who wanted to know whether there’s any science to back up the techniques promoted by professional pick-up artists.  

Have you read 'The Game' by Neil Strauss? In the book, Neil learns that (among other things) he needs to dress well, and with style, to get the ladies. It's advice that's common enough. But what, if any, is the evolutionary appeal to favor men who can dress well? Also I'd love to hear your thoughts on seduction/pickup-artistry/The Game.

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“Is It Hot In Here, Or Is It Just You?” Do Pick-Up Lines Actually Work?

“Is It Hot In Here, Or Is It Just You?” Do Pick-Up Lines Actually Work?
When you see someone attractive that you desperately want to meet, how do you break the ice? Many of us opt for a simple “hi” or “hello,” others offer a dance or a drink, and some choose to lead with an awesomely bad pick-up line (e.g., “Did you wash your pants with Windex? Because I can really see myself in them"). But which of these approaches is most likely to succeed? Although no technique works 100% of the time, given that every person and situation is different, research suggests that your best bet is to be direct and be yourself, but steer clear of crude and sexually suggestive pick-up lines.
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