Why Tinder is Frustrating for Everyone

Why Tinder is Frustrating for Everyone

The internet is rife with articles describing people’s frustration with online dating apps like Tinder. It’s interesting when you think about it because these apps were designed to make dating easier and more efficient than ever; however, they haven’t necessarily made the process more satisfying. One of the problems for those attracted to different genders is that men and women tend to take very different approaches to Tinder—approaches that often end up creating frustration on all sides.

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Being Similar To Your Partner Doesn't Guarantee Greater Happiness

Being Similar To Your Partner Doesn't Guarantee Greater Happiness

Finding a compatible partner is one of the cornerstones of a happy and healthy relationship. But how do you determine who you’re compatible with? Intuitively, you might think the answer would be to take the approach that a lot of online dating companies do, which is try and partner-up with someone similar to you. If you’re more similar, you’ll probably have fewer disagreements, right? 

Not necessarily.  

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We’re In Peak Online Dating Season. Here's Why

We’re In Peak Online Dating Season. Here's Why

The busiest time of year for online dating is the nearly two-month stretch that runs from the day after Christmas through Valentine’s Day. It reaches its peak on the Sunday after New Year’s Day, or “Dating Sunday” as it’s known by those who work in the romance industry. This is consistently the single biggest day of the year for new online dating signups.

So why is that? What’s going on in the first few months of winter that makes people want to couple-up (a phenomenon often referred to in the media as “cuffing season”)?

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5 Important Things Science Has Taught Us About Sexual Attraction

5 Important Things Science Has Taught Us About Sexual Attraction

What is it that attracts us to other people? Can you fall in love at first sight? Can computer algorithms successfully predict who will make a good match? Read on for the answers to these and several other fascinating questions about sexual attraction, according to science. 

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We’ve Reached Peak Online Dating Season

We’ve Reached Peak Online Dating Season

The busiest time of year for online dating is the nearly two-month stretch that runs from the day after Christmas through Valentine’s Day. It reaches its peak on the Sunday after New Year’s Day, or “Dating Sunday” as it’s known by those who work in the romance industry, which is consistently the single biggest day of the year for new online dating signups.

So why is that? What’s going on in the first few months of winter that makes people want to couple-up?

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STD Rates Are Rising, But It’s Not Because of Tinder and Grindr

STD Rates Are Rising, But It’s Not Because of Tinder and Grindr

In the modern world, we have a tendency to blame almost all of our problems on technology--and this is especially true when it comes to sexual problems. For example, I’ve written a lot about how we like to blame everything on pornography, from sexual violence to risky sex to erectile dysfunction, among other things. In all of these cases, porn serves as a convenient target, but it's not necessarily the right one.

Today, I want to focus on a different form of technology that's been getting a lot of blame for sexual problems: online dating apps. They’ve been in the news a lot lately, with many pointing to them as the culprit for rising rates of STDs. Headlines like this make it clear what I mean: “Tinder and Grindr Dating Apps are Causing Cases of Syphilis, Gonorrhea, and HIV to soar.”

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Video: Are Romantic Matching Algorithms Possible?

Video: Are Romantic Matching Algorithms Possible?

Eharmony and other popular online dating sites promise to help users find compatible romantic partners through the use of specialized matching algorithms. These services were founded on the idea that romantic attraction is something that is both rational and predictable. But is that really the case?

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How to be Successful at Online Dating, According to Science

How to be Successful at Online Dating, According to Science

Americans are increasingly going online in order to find romantic and sexual partners. However, despite the popularity of online dating, most Americans have never tried it. That’s partially because there’s still some stigma attached to online dating, but it’s also because the sheer idea of it seems overwhelming to many. For example, how do you create an effective profile? This step alone can be very intimidating because a lot of people are worried about saying or posting the “wrong” thing and having that hurt their chances. Fortunately, there are some research-backed tips out there that can help to alleviate these fears and concerns.

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Infographic: Americans' Attitudes Toward & Experiences With Online Dating

Infographic: Americans' Attitudes Toward & Experiences With Online Dating

In just two decades, online dating has become a multi-billion dollar industry--and it hasn't come anywhere close to reaching its full potential yet. Believe it or not, despite how much you've heard about online dating, the vast majority of Americans have never tried it. In fact, even if you only look at millennials--the group most likely to date online--only about one-quarter of them have done it before.

For a closer look at Americans' attitudes toward and experiences with online dating and how these things are related to our age and gender, check out the infographic below. 

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Mating Tricks: Sexual Deception is Everywhere in Nature

Mating Tricks: Sexual Deception is Everywhere in Nature

When it comes to online dating, what you see isn't always what you get. As many of you have probably discovered through personal experience, people are often less than forthright when describing themselves to potential romantic prospects on the internet. As some evidence of just how widespread this kind of deception is, a recent study of online daters in New York City found that 81.3% of the people surveyed lied about at least one thing in their profiles! 

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5 Unintended Ways Pokemon GO is Changing Our Sex Lives

5 Unintended Ways Pokemon GO is Changing Our Sex Lives

If you’re anything like me, your newsfeed has probably been dominanted with articles about the popular gaming app Pokémon GO for the past few weeks. Most of the stories to emerge so far have focused on how this augmented reality game is affecting the everyday lives of users. For instance, among other things, it is helping many folks to get more exercise and lose weight, which is great. At the same time, though, it has also (sadly) contributed to at least a few cases of distracted driving that ended in car crashes.

However, one thing you may not have heard much about yet is how Pokémon GO is affecting people's sex lives. Yep, you read that right.

As you'll see below, there have been a number of rather surprising sexual implications of the Pokémon GO phenomenon that the creators of the game probably never anticipated.

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Infographic: Online Dating In America

Infographic: Online Dating In America

The world's first online dating company, Match.com, hit the scene twenty years ago. Since then, it has accumulated tens of millions of users worldwide and spawned numerous competitors. Online dating is now a multi-billion dollar industry and it shows no signs of abating. In fact, if anything, it still has a lot of room for growth.

Check out the infographic below for a look at how many Americans have ever tried online dating and their attitudes toward it. As people continue to warm to the idea, it's likely that we'll only see more and more folks go online in search of love and romance. To learn more about research on internet dating, including the impact it has had on our relationships, check out this article.

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Operation Match: Online Dating In The 1960s In America

Operation Match: Online Dating In The 1960s In America

The idea of using computers to find love and romance is something that most people think of as a very recent phenomenon; however, it turns out that this isn't a new idea at all and it has a history that dates back much further than you might suspect. Believe it or not, the very first computer dating service in the United States emerged in 1965. This service, known as Operation Match, was the brainchild of some Harvard undergraduates (much like Facebook, which emerged a few decades later). It worked like this: participants filled out a questionnaire, mailed it in along with $3.00, and received a list of compatible matches a few weeks later based on a computer's analysis of their responses.

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People Seem More Likely To Have Affairs Just Before Entering A New Decade Of Life

People Seem More Likely To Have Affairs Just Before Entering A New Decade Of Life

A new set of studies just published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences concludes that when we are on the verge of entering a new decade in our chronological age (i.e., when we are ages 39, 49, 59, etc.), it prompts us to reflect upon the meaningfulness of our lives. This search for meaning leads some to the happy conclusion that their lives do indeed have meaning. For others, however, it leads to despair because they conclude that their lives lack meaning (which some might call a "midlife crisis"). In the latter situation, people can respond to this in one of two ways. Some will react in an adaptive fashion by pursuing behaviors that ultimately give their lives meaning or provide a sense of accomplishment, while others will respond in ways that are counterproductive and may hurt their chances of finding meaning. Of particular relevance to readers of this blog is the finding that one of those maladaptive coping mechanisms appears to be seeking out an affair.

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Deception In Online Dating: How Often Do People Lie In Their Profiles? (Infographic)

People of all genders and sexualities are increasingly turning to the Internet in order to find sex and love (or both). However, anyone who has ever experimented with online dating knows that what you see online is not always what you get in person. So just how often do people exaggerate or lie about themselves when they create a profile on a dating website? Check out the infographic below for a glimpse into some of the most common forms of deception observed in the world of online dating.
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Has Online Dating Made Our Relationships Better?

Has Online Dating Made Our Relationships Better?
A group of psychologists recently published a paper in which they critically examined the science behind online dating in order to answer two questions: How is online dating different from traditional (i.e., offline) dating? And are couples who meet online better off in the long run [1]? Their analysis suggests that online dating is definitely a unique way of starting relationships and has some distinct advantages over other ways of meeting people; however, it is also subject to some major limitations that ultimately prevent it from creating perfect relationships for everyone. In this article, I review some of the major points raised by the authors of this fascinating paper.
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Are Couples Who Meet Online More Likely to Break Up?

Are Couples Who Meet Online More Likely to Break Up?
Ever since the Internet arrived in our homes, people have been using it as a tool for making love connections. In fact, research indicates that about one in five heterosexual couples and two in five same-sex couples in the United States today met online [1]. Despite the frequency of Internet dating in the modern world, looking for love on the Internet online carries some degree of stigma [2]. For instance, people are often embarrassed to tell others they belong to an online dating site because they are afraid this information will make them look desperate. Another factor that makes people cautious about online dating is the well-known fact that lying is rampant on Internet personal profiles [3]. Between the prejudice and the lies, online romances would appear doomed to fail right from the start. But is there any truth to this idea? Are online daters really any worse off than couples who meet in other ways?
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