Does Pornography Promote Risky Sex?

Does Pornography Promote Risky Sex?

When it comes to pornography, many have argued that we have a tendency to imitate the sexual behaviors that we observe on screen. In other words, we take a "monkey see, monkey do" approach to porn. This belief has led to widespread concern that viewers might mimic the risky sexual acts that they see porn stars doing (e.g., having unprotected sex with multiple partners), thereby creating a public health risk. However, is this concern really warranted?

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A Top Ten List of Women’s Sexual Fantasies: Zac Efron, Fire Fighters, Batman, And More

A Top Ten List of Women’s Sexual Fantasies: Zac Efron, Fire Fighters, Batman, And More

A few weeks back, I posted an article about how men’s and women’s sexual fantasies differ. As I mentioned in that piece, women’s fantasies typically contain a fair amount of emotional and romantic content. In addition, their fantasies usually aren’t as sexually explicit as men’s and are less likely to feature multiple partners. To explore women’s fantasies in a bit more detail, I have prepared a Top Ten List of Sexual Fantasies that women have anonymously submitted to me over the years. You’ll notice that a number of the fantasies do include romantic imagery. However, you’ll also find that women sometimes fantasize about the same things as men, with occasional mentions of sexy celebrities, masked superheroes, and threesomes. Enjoy!

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A Top Ten List of Men’s Sexual Fantasies: Football, Threesomes, Star Wars and More

A Top Ten List of Men’s Sexual Fantasies: Football, Threesomes, Star Wars and More

I recently posted an article about how men’s and women’s sexual fantasies differ. As I mentioned in that piece, men’s fantasies tend to be sexually explicit, frequently include multiple partners, and often express themes of dominance and submission. To demonstrate some evidence of this and explore men’s fantasy content in a little more detail, I have prepared a Top Ten List of sexual fantasies than guys have anonymously submitted to me over the years. As you’ll see when reading this list, threesomes are (not surprisingly) perhaps the most commonly desired scenario. However, you’ll also notice that men’s fantasies frequently include trying new things, breaking social taboos, and combining sex with their true loves: football, food, and Star Wars. Enjoy!

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How Do Men’s and Women’s Sexual Fantasies Differ?

How Do Men’s and Women’s Sexual Fantasies Differ?
A few weeks back, I posted a Top 10 List of Sexual Fantasies, which contained a set of fun fantasies people have anonymously submitted to me over the years. As you read through the list, you probably found that it was easy to identify which fantasies were written by men (e.g., “Hot tub filled with whipped cream, pudding, and multiple blondes) and which were written by women (e.g., “We're out for a drive in the country and it starts to rain. We pull into the driveway at home and my partner pulls me into the barn, where we make love on a bale of hay as the rain continues outside”). A few fantasies were more challenging to place, but the majority of them were pretty simple because they largely conformed to gender stereotypes. So is this typically the case when it comes to sexual fantasies? Are men's and women's fantasies really that different?
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