Sex Question Friday: How Can We Make Anal Sex More Pleasurable?

Sex Question Friday: How Can We Make Anal Sex More Pleasurable?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a male reader who wanted to know more about the topic of anal sex:

“My girlfriend and I both really want to try anal sex, but every time we do, we stop almost immediately because she says it’s too painful. Are we doing something wrong? Is there anything we can try to make it pleasurable instead of painful for her?

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Sex Question Friday: Do Women Enjoy Anal Sex?

Sex Question Friday: Do Women Enjoy Anal Sex?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from reader who wanted to know how many women have experienced anal sex and their perceptions of this activity.

How many women have had anal sex? Is it possible for a woman to enjoy it and even orgasm from it? Or do women just have anal sex because they feel pressure from their partners?

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Safe Sex Is Pleasurable Sex

One of the most common concerns people have about condoms is that they may reduce genital sensations, thereby making sexual intercourse less pleasurable. In fact, these fears about reduced sensitivity are one of the most frequently reported reasons people give for not using condoms consistently.1 So does using condoms truly put a damper on sexual satisfaction? According to a new study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, people report that sex feels just as good regardless of whether a condom is used.
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Fact Check: Do Condoms Actually Increase STD Risk For Porn Performers?

“The shortest porn scenes require an absolute minimum of ‘half an hour of hard thrusting by a well-endowed young man. It's hard enough to deal with [without] condoms. Add latex to the mix and I'm down to being able to work with a man once a week at best, to say nothing of the damage it would do to my private life and intimacy with my husband.’” – Porn actress Nina Hartley on the use of condoms in pornography

Next month, voters in California will decide whether to enact a law requiring pornography performers to wear condoms during films in an attempt to reduce their risk of contracting and spreading HIV and other STIs. This issue has stoked a lot of controversy and has generated a number of articles and opinion pieces arguing both for and against the ballot measure. One article in particular, entitled “Why Porn Sex is the Safest Sex,” caught my attention, and not just for its provocative title (which stems from a quote by porn actor James Deen who argued that “the safest sex you can have is in the adult film business”). If you read the entire article, it goes on to suggest that use of condoms during porn actually makes the performers less safe. Needless to say, I thought this claim merited a fact check.

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Does Sexual Arousal Override Feelings of Disgust?

Does Sexual Arousal Override Feelings of Disgust?

“A man who will kiss a pretty girl’s lips passionately may perhaps be disgusted at the idea of using her toothbrush, though there are no grounds for supposing that his own oral cavity, for which he feels no disgust, is any cleaner than the girl’s.” – Sigmund Freud

Sweat. Saliva. Sexual fluids. Outside the context of a sexual encounter, all of these bodily secretions have a tendency to be viewed as, well, kind of gross. But during sexual activity, people don’t mind them at all and, in fact, some of us derive great pleasure from them. This begs the question of how something that normally disgusts us could be viewed so differently when we’re in bed. A new study suggests that feelings of sexual arousal may serve to override our disgust impulses.

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A Top 10 List of the Most Interesting Sexual Products Available on Amazon.com

You may or may not realize this, but Amazon.com is quickly becoming the world’s largest online sex store, carrying a huge and incredibly diverse selection of sex-related products. For instance, in the "Sexual Wellness" category on their website, there are a staggering 76,000+ items for sale as of today! In light of this, I thought it might be fun to take you on a brief tour of ten of the most interesting (and, of course, humorous) sex books and toys currently available for purchase on Amazon.
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Sex Question Friday: Shower Sex, Natural Male Enhancement, and Bisexuality

Sex Question Friday: Shower Sex, Natural Male Enhancement, and Bisexuality
Every time I teach a Human Sexuality course, I give my students the opportunity to anonymously submit any questions they have about sex. Over the years, I've seen a lot of similar questions pop up, so I thought it might be worthwhile to distribute some of the answers more broadly. Thus, I'm pleased to announce the introduction of Sex Question Fridays to the blog. Each Friday, I will answer a few burning sex questions posed by actual college students.  To kick off the inaugural edition, we’re going to talk about shower sex, “natural male enhancement,” and bisexuality. Not a bad way to start the weekend!
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