Would you know if your partner had an orgasm? According to a recent study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, a lot of us—but especially heterosexual men—can’t seem to tell.Read More
I recently blogged about a study that examined women’s experiences with orgasm during vaginal intercourse. The results revealed that question wording is crucial when it comes to understanding how often women tend to orgasm during this activity: when the question specifically includes clitoral stimulation, women’s reported frequency of orgasm (51-60% of the time) is much higher than when the question specifically excludes clitoral stimulation (21-30% of the time).
There’s another aspect of this study worth highlighting, though, which is how heterosexual men responded when given the same questions about their perceptions of the orgasmic experiences of women. Do men recognize the important role of clitoral stimulation in their partners’ orgasms? And how accurate are they when it comes to estimating how often their partners are reaching orgasm? Let’s take a look.Read More
If I asked you to imagine someone faking an orgasm, odds are that you'd probably picture a woman. It has long been assumed that fake orgasms are unique to women, even among scientists. In fact, until recently, researchers didn't even bother to ask men whether they were faking any of their orgasms because they thought they already knew the answer! As it turns out, however, women aren't alone in faking orgasms--a lot of guys have done it before, too.
So why are so many women and men pretending to orgasm? Do they do it for similar or different reasons? And is it a good or bad thing that so many people are faking it?Read More
If you were asked to imagine someone faking an orgasm, chances are that you'd picture a woman. Why? Because fake orgasms are widely assumed to be unique to women, even among scientists themselves. In fact, until very recently, researchers didn't even bother to ask men whether they were faking orgasms because they thought they already knew the answer! As it turns out, though, there are a lot of guys who fake orgasms, and who fake them often.Read More
A reader submitted the following question:
"We all know that women fake orgasms, but what about men? How many guys have ever faked an orgasm?"
Thanks for this interesting question. Let me start by saying that not all women have experience faking orgasms; however, survey studies reliably find that most women say they've done it at least once in the past . So what about men? Surprisingly, researchers didn't bother to explore this question until very recently. Many have seemingly assumed that men either don’t need to fake it because they almost always reach orgasm, or that men can’t truly fake an orgasm because ejaculation usually makes it obvious. Research suggests that both of these assumptions are incorrect.Read More
Explaining the evolutionary significance of the female orgasm has long been a conundrum for scientists. Why does the female orgasm exist if it is not necessary for reproduction to occur? Numerous theories abound, with some scientists arguing that contractions of the uterus could increase the odds of conception by drawing sperm further into the reproductive tract and others arguing that the female orgasm serves no purpose at all and is simply a “fantastic bonus” for women during sex. One of the more interesting theories I’ve heard is that the female orgasm promotes fidelity, such that when women are more sexually satisfied, they will be less likely to cheat. Along these same lines, it has also been argued that the female orgasm is a signal that heterosexual men use to determine their female partners’ likelihood of staying faithful. The thought is that when men can tell that their female partner has been sexually satisfied, they will have more confidence that their partner will not cheat, thereby reducing the likelihood that she will become pregnant by some other guy. So is there anything to this idea? Do women’s orgasms say anything about their actual or perceived probability of committing infidelity?Read More
Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader who wanted to know whether faking orgasms is something unique to women, or if guys do it too.
I had a rather lively conversation with some of my friends the other day about faking orgasms, with the general focus being the myth that men don't or can't fake orgasms. The conversation I had seemed to suggest that faking orgasms is not all that uncommon among men since everyone seemed to have at least one experience doing it, but obviously that is just my group of friends. So is faking orgasms a common experience for men?
Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week, we’re talking about fake orgasms. Students in my Human Sexuality course typically ask the following two questions about this topic every semester:
How common is faking orgasms among women?
Why would a woman pretend to orgasm?