Americans' Attitudes Toward and Experiences with Sex Toys and Sexual Media (Infographic)

Americans' Attitudes Toward and Experiences with Sex Toys and Sexual Media (Infographic)

To date, most national sex surveys in America have focused on people's attitudes toward and experiences with a relatively narrow range of sexual behaviors, namely: vaginal intercourse, oral sex, anal sex, and masturbation. As a result, we now have a pretty good idea as to how many people have engaged in those activities. However, this provides only a very limited understanding of Americans' sexuality because there are numerous other ways that people might express themselves sexually. Fortunately, a new study published in the journal PLOS ONE offers some insight into various other forms of sexual expression. The infographic below takes a look at Americans' interest in and experiences with sex toys and sexual media (think pornography, sexting, etc.) specifically.

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How Do You Make A Long-Distance Relationship Work?

How Do You Make A Long-Distance Relationship Work?

A reader submitted the following question:

"I'm in a long-distance relationship and it's tough. Are there any tips or tricks to help keep a relationship alive when you can't physically be with your partner very often?"

Great question! You're not alone in finding the experience of a long-distance relationship to be difficult. However, while these relationships undeniably pose some unique challenges, it's definitely possible for them to not only work out, but to be just as strong as relationships in which the partners live close to one another.

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Sex Question Friday: How Do You Keep A Long-Distance Relationship Sexy And Strong?

Sex Question Friday: How Do You Keep A Long-Distance Relationship Sexy And Strong?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer readers’ questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week, I’m answering two related questions that came in on the topic of long-distance relationships:

“Can long distance relationships actually work?”

“Are there any tips for keeping long distance relationships (that can't touch as often physically) sexy or strong that are supported by any psychology or science?”

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Are Sexting And Cybersex Signs of Loneliness And Low Self-Esteem?

Are Sexting And Cybersex Signs of Loneliness And Low Self-Esteem?

In a recent New York Times editorial, author Susan Jacoby laments the increasingly popularity of “sexting,” cybersex, and other such virtual connections. Jacoby argues that virtual sex lacks the sensuality inherent in an in-person sexual encounter and that people who have sex online are settling for a much lesser experience. She also implies that the people who are drawn to such behavior suffer from low self-esteem. Indeed, she (judgmentally) ponders “what does a man really think of himself when he must feed his ego with phony gasps of erotic pleasure from strangers in a digital vastness? What does a woman think of herself in the same arid zone of sex without sensuality?” However, she goes further and argues that virtual sex represents an even more problematic behavior for women than for men. Indeed, she claims that “women who settle for digital pornography are lowering their expectations and hopes even more drastically than their male collaborators are.” So are sexting and cybersex really so terrible and are the people who engage in these behaviors as pathetic as Jacoby suggests?

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Remote-Controlled Sex Toys Add A Whole New Dimension To Phone Sex

A persistent lack of physical intimacy has always been one of the greatest challenges facing the partners involved in long-distance romantic relationships. While they can indeed have phone sex and cybersex, anyone who has been in one of these relationships will tell you that it is not quite the same [1]. However, recent advances in sex toy technology (known as "teledildonics" to you techies) may soon change all of this.
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