The Truth About the “Oral Sex Gap”

The Truth About the “Oral Sex Gap”

According to countless popular media articles, there is a massive disparity between heterosexual men and women when it comes to giving oral sex. Some of these articles suggest that, in male-female sexual encounters, “blowjobs are basically a given” while cunnilingus is “one of the least-often performed sex acts.” In other words, men are getting oral all the time from women, whereas women are almost never receiving it from men—a situation that has been dubbed the “oral sex gap.”

However, I did some digging into the prevalence of oral sex across genders and it turns out that these claims don’t quite match up with what the research says. The oral sex gap isn’t exactly what we have been led to believe.

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Sex Question Friday: Should I Be Using Condoms During Oral Sex?

Sex Question Friday: Should I Be Using Condoms During Oral Sex?

A reader submitted the following question:

“Is it necessary to use condoms/dental dams for oral sex? What if it is not used? Does that guarantee transmission of sexually transmitted infections?”

Thanks for this great question! Oral sex has become a very common sexual activity in the Western world. For instance, most U.S. adults under age 50 say that they have given and/or received oral sex in the past year in the form of fellatio or cunnilingus, a number that has increased significantly during the past few decades.

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Women's Pubic Hair Removal Patterns (Infographic)

Women's Pubic Hair Removal Patterns (Infographic)

Pubic hair removal is not a new practice among women. In fact, we have reason to believe that women have been removing at least some of their hair "down there" since the time of the ancient Greeks and Egyptians. However, media portrayals suggest that this trend has escalated considerably in recent years and that most women are now opting for the "full Brazilian" or "Hollywood Wax" (i.e., total  removal of all pubic hair, including the buttocks). But is this really the case? Check out the infographic below for a reality check on modern women's pubic hair removal practices.

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What Is The Evolutionary Significance Of Cunnilingus?

I recently came across a journal article entitled Is Cunnilingus-Assisted Orgasm a Male Sperm-Retention Strategy? Naturally, I dropped everything I was doing and read it immediately--how could I not with a title like that? The researchers sought to test the novel hypothesis that, after ejaculation during intercourse, heterosexual men try to get their female partners to reach orgasm via oral sex in order to help them retain as much sperm as possible.1 To the extent that the female orgasm produces uterine contractions that draw sperm further into the reproductive tract, this would theoretically facilitate conception.  However, in order for the cunnilingus-assisted orgasm to serve this purpose, it would need to occur right around the man’s ejaculation (specifically, anywhere from one minute before to about 45 minutes after)—if her orgasm occurs sooner or later than that, it will not have a sperm-retaining effect.
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Strange Sex Crimes: Attempted Murder By Oral Sex

It’s a given that some amount of conflict will occur in any relationship. However, every couple deals with conflict in their own unique way, with some couples giving each other the silent treatment, others taking turns sleeping on the couch, and some resorting to shouting matches. However, a few people take things to the extreme and actually attempt to kill their partners [1]. We’ve all heard media reports about this kind of thing before, but a recent story broke that involved the most bizarre method I’ve ever read about for attempting to kill a partner: a poison-laced vagina and a request for oral sex.
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