Sex Question Friday: Older Women Dating Younger Men--Can It Work?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader who wanted to know whether it is possible for an age-gap relationship to work out when it involves an older woman and a younger man.

I am a 46-year-old woman recently married to a man 18 years younger than myself. We've been together about 2 years, and got married mainly so that he can live with me and my two children from a previous marriage. So far we all get along great, but from the beginning I've wondered how realistic it is to hope for long-term success given the age difference. In particular, our society ridicules and devalues older women, and I worry that as I get older, it will be harder and harder for my husband to feel attracted to me even if he still loves me. I don't know any other women who have tried dating younger men, but I've noticed that you are one of very few people who has published research on this subject. Is there any advice you would give, based on your research or on your experience with age-gap couples?

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A Top Ten List of Men’s Sexual Fantasies: Football, Threesomes, Star Wars and More

A Top Ten List of Men’s Sexual Fantasies: Football, Threesomes, Star Wars and More

I recently posted an article about how men’s and women’s sexual fantasies differ. As I mentioned in that piece, men’s fantasies tend to be sexually explicit, frequently include multiple partners, and often express themes of dominance and submission. To demonstrate some evidence of this and explore men’s fantasy content in a little more detail, I have prepared a Top Ten List of sexual fantasies than guys have anonymously submitted to me over the years. As you’ll see when reading this list, threesomes are (not surprisingly) perhaps the most commonly desired scenario. However, you’ll also notice that men’s fantasies frequently include trying new things, breaking social taboos, and combining sex with their true loves: football, food, and Star Wars. Enjoy!

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