Operation Match: Online Dating In The 1960s In America

Operation Match: Online Dating In The 1960s In America

The idea of using computers to find love and romance is something that most people think of as a very recent phenomenon; however, it turns out that this isn't a new idea at all and it has a history that dates back much further than you might suspect. Believe it or not, the very first computer dating service in the United States emerged in 1965. This service, known as Operation Match, was the brainchild of some Harvard undergraduates (much like Facebook, which emerged a few decades later). It worked like this: participants filled out a questionnaire, mailed it in along with $3.00, and received a list of compatible matches a few weeks later based on a computer's analysis of their responses.

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Are Sexting And Cybersex Signs of Loneliness And Low Self-Esteem?

Are Sexting And Cybersex Signs of Loneliness And Low Self-Esteem?

In a recent New York Times editorial, author Susan Jacoby laments the increasingly popularity of “sexting,” cybersex, and other such virtual connections. Jacoby argues that virtual sex lacks the sensuality inherent in an in-person sexual encounter and that people who have sex online are settling for a much lesser experience. She also implies that the people who are drawn to such behavior suffer from low self-esteem. Indeed, she (judgmentally) ponders “what does a man really think of himself when he must feed his ego with phony gasps of erotic pleasure from strangers in a digital vastness? What does a woman think of herself in the same arid zone of sex without sensuality?” However, she goes further and argues that virtual sex represents an even more problematic behavior for women than for men. Indeed, she claims that “women who settle for digital pornography are lowering their expectations and hopes even more drastically than their male collaborators are.” So are sexting and cybersex really so terrible and are the people who engage in these behaviors as pathetic as Jacoby suggests?

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Has Online Dating Made Our Relationships Better?

Has Online Dating Made Our Relationships Better?
A group of psychologists recently published a paper in which they critically examined the science behind online dating in order to answer two questions: How is online dating different from traditional (i.e., offline) dating? And are couples who meet online better off in the long run [1]? Their analysis suggests that online dating is definitely a unique way of starting relationships and has some distinct advantages over other ways of meeting people; however, it is also subject to some major limitations that ultimately prevent it from creating perfect relationships for everyone. In this article, I review some of the major points raised by the authors of this fascinating paper.
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