Four Fascinating Things I Learned About Sex At A Sex Research Conference

Four Fascinating Things I Learned About Sex At A Sex Research Conference

I recently returned from the Sexuality Pre-Conference, held just prior to the annual meeting of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology in Atlanta, Georgia. I had the chance to see an incredible set of talks and what I’d like to do in this post is briefly walk you through four of the most interesting things I learned by attending this meeting.

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Sex Needs A New Metaphor (VIDEO)

Sex Needs A New Metaphor (VIDEO)

In this TED talk, sexuality educator Al Vernacchio argues that Americans need a new metaphor when talking about sex. Vernacchio claims that, all too often, we talk about our sex lives like a game of baseball. This baseball metaphor is used to describe everything from sexual roles/positions (are you a pitcher, catcher, or switch-hitter?) to what happened during a given encounter (which “base” did you get to?) to the outcome of the event (was it a strike-out or a score?). Vernacchio believes that this metaphor makes it difficult to have healthy discussions about sexuality because it frames sex as a competition, where there is necessarily a winner and a loser, and also because it implies that sex necessarily follows a predictable sequence of events each time (i.e., there’s only one “correct” way to play the game). So how should we talk about sex instead? Vernacchio suggests that we think about sex like we're sharing a pizza. Why pizza of all things? Check out the video below to learn more.

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Why Do Straight Women And Gay Men Get Along So Well? They Exchange Good Sex Advice

Why Do Straight Women And Gay Men Get Along So Well? They Exchange Good Sex Advice

Popular media depictions suggest that heterosexual women and gay men are natural BFFs. In fact, almost any time you turn on the television, you can see this type of friendship on display, whether it is a scripted sitcom such as Will and Grace or a reality show like The Real Housewives. How do we explain this common social pairing on screen and in real life? A new set of studies suggests that both parties find this type of friendship advantageous because it offers a free exchange of unbiased sex and relationship advice from a trustworthy source.

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