What Your Eyes Reveal About Your Sexual Orientation

What Your Eyes Reveal About Your Sexual Orientation

Sex scientists have a lot of tools to choose from when it comes to measuring people’s sexual orientation. However, every tool poses a unique set of challenges.

The most straightforward way to measure someone’s sexuality is simply to ask them who they’re attracted to or what their sexual identity label is. The downside to this method, of course, is that not everyone will answer honestly. For instance, studies have found that some heterosexual men who espouse homophobic views actually demonstrate strong genital arousal in response to gay porn, likely because they’re in denial about their sexuality. As the famous line from Shakespeare’s Hamlet goes, they “doth protest too much, methinks.”

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When Strong Emotions are Mistaken for Sexual Attraction

When Strong Emotions are Mistaken for Sexual Attraction

A lot of reality dating shows share the same premise: one contestant goes on a series of brief dates--each with an attractive stranger--and then decides who he or she would like to continue seeing off-screen. I've seen more than my fair share of these shows in my day--all for research purposes, of course--and have found that I'm often pretty good at figuring out who the contestant is going to select by paying attention to just one thing: how physiologically arousing were the activities that took place during the mini-dates? Did they do something active and exciting, or did they just sit around?

Why do I focus on this? Because a large body of psychological research has found that when people are highly aroused and interact with a stranger of their desired sex, the odds of attraction increase.

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Sex Question Friday: Are Bisexuals Usually More Attracted To One Sex?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader who wanted to know whether it is common for bisexual individuals to be more attracted to one sex than the other.
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Where’s A Good Place To Find A Date? Try The Gym

“Where is a good place to meet people?” I frequently get asked this question through my website and in the classes I teach. There isn’t a simple answer because there are obviously lots of places you could try, from your computer to a concert to the local bar. However, one place that a lot of people may not have thought about is the gym. I know you may not look or smell your best after a long workout, but believe it or not, there’s actually a sound scientific basis behind meeting up in a fitness club.
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Are Bisexual People Equally Aroused By Men And Women?

Are Bisexual People Equally Aroused By Men And Women?

“I’m not even sure bisexuality exists. I think it’s just a layover on the way to gaytown.”

– Carrie Bradshaw (Sex and the City)

Many of you are probably familiar with the popular stereotype that bisexual people are actually closeted gays who just aren’t quite ready to admit it to the world. Proponents of this stereotype were seemingly validated by a 2005 study published in Psychological Science, which found that most men who identified as bisexual exhibited stronger genital arousal in response to male pornographic imagery than female pornographic imagery [1]. However, a more recent study published in Biological Psychology disputes this finding and presents convincing scientific evidence that "true" bisexuality (i.e., strong attraction to both men and women) does indeed exist [2].

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