Why Tinder is Frustrating for Everyone

Why Tinder is Frustrating for Everyone

The internet is rife with articles describing people’s frustration with online dating apps like Tinder. It’s interesting when you think about it because these apps were designed to make dating easier and more efficient than ever; however, they haven’t necessarily made the process more satisfying. One of the problems for those attracted to different genders is that men and women tend to take very different approaches to Tinder—approaches that often end up creating frustration on all sides.

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STD Rates Are Rising, But It’s Not Because of Tinder and Grindr

STD Rates Are Rising, But It’s Not Because of Tinder and Grindr

In the modern world, we have a tendency to blame almost all of our problems on technology--and this is especially true when it comes to sexual problems. For example, I’ve written a lot about how we like to blame everything on pornography, from sexual violence to risky sex to erectile dysfunction, among other things. In all of these cases, porn serves as a convenient target, but it's not necessarily the right one.

Today, I want to focus on a different form of technology that's been getting a lot of blame for sexual problems: online dating apps. They’ve been in the news a lot lately, with many pointing to them as the culprit for rising rates of STDs. Headlines like this make it clear what I mean: “Tinder and Grindr Dating Apps are Causing Cases of Syphilis, Gonorrhea, and HIV to soar.”

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Infographic: Americans' Attitudes Toward & Experiences With Online Dating

Infographic: Americans' Attitudes Toward & Experiences With Online Dating

In just two decades, online dating has become a multi-billion dollar industry--and it hasn't come anywhere close to reaching its full potential yet. Believe it or not, despite how much you've heard about online dating, the vast majority of Americans have never tried it. In fact, even if you only look at millennials--the group most likely to date online--only about one-quarter of them have done it before.

For a closer look at Americans' attitudes toward and experiences with online dating and how these things are related to our age and gender, check out the infographic below. 

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Why So Many Guys Send Unsolicited Photos of Their Manhood to Women

Why So Many Guys Send Unsolicited Photos of Their Manhood to Women

Last week, I was talking in class about differences in how men and women use Tinder and other online dating apps. In the midst of this class discussion, a student asked why so many straight men who use these apps send unsolicited or unwanted photos of their penises to women. This led to a long, but fascinating discussion that I thought readers of the blog might be interested in, too.

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