Why Americans Are Having Less Sex—And What It Means

Why Americans Are Having Less Sex—And What It Means

I recently blogged about the results of a new study reporting that Americans today are having less sex than they were a quarter century ago. Specifically, this research suggests that Americans are having sex about 9 fewer times per year than they were in the 1990s. So what accounts for this apparent decline? And does it necessarily mean—as many assume—that Americans’ sex lives and relationships are less satisfying than they once were? 

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Foot Orgasm Syndrome: She Experienced 5-6 Orgasms A Day Originating In Her Left Foot

Foot Orgasm Syndrome: She Experienced 5-6 Orgasms A Day Originating In Her Left Foot

Sexologists have long recognized that a link exists between feet and orgasm, but I'm not talking about foot fetishes here. What I am referring to is the fact that, upon reaching climax, it is common for the feet to extend and for the toes to curl. They aren't called "toe-curling orgasms" for nothing! In rare instances, however, the foot-orgasm connection goes much, much deeper. In fact, a group of physicians recently published a report on the world’s first known case of Foot Orgasm Syndrome (FOS) in which they described a Dutch woman who regularly experienced spontaneous orgasms originating in one of her feet.

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Sex Question Friday: I Can’t Seem To Orgasm. What Should I Do?

Sex Question Friday: I Can’t Seem To Orgasm. What Should I Do?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a female reader who can’t reach orgasm in any sexual situation and wants to know what she should do.

I can't climax. It does not happen with my partner, nor does it happen in a hookup. It does not happen during intercourse, nor during masturbation or oral stimulation. Should I see a doctor about that? Or maybe a sex therapist? 

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How Can I Last Longer In Bed?

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems reported by men. In fact, about one-third of men aged 18-59 report that they often climax before they would like to with their sexual partners.1 Of course, finishing quickly is not inherently problematic, but when it causes distress for the individual or makes it difficult to have a mutually satisfying sexual relationship, it becomes clinically significant and is worth addressing. Fortunately, premature ejaculation is one of the easier sexual difficulties to resolve and it does necessarily even require a visit to a doctor or a sex therapist.  
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Sex Question Friday: Can Too Much Weed Hurt Your Sex Life?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader who wanted to know whether substance use can lead to problems “keeping it up” during sex.

What does it mean when men in college can't stay hard during sex? If you smoke a lot of weed, does that make it more difficult to stay hard in the same way alcohol does?

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Fact Check: Do Skinny Jeans And “Excessive” Masturbation Cause Erectile Dysfunction?

In a recent online survey, a sample of 1,500 men were asked to identify the most common causes of erectile dysfunction (ED). Results indicated that 1 out of 3 guys pointed to wearing skinny jeans and 1 out of 10 guys pointed to “excessive” masturbation as the primary culprits. Is there any truth to the idea that wearing tight pants or “overusing” your genitals can affect your ability to achieve erections in the future? No. There is simply no research to suggest wearing slimmer pants or underwear will cause ED (incidentally, the often cited claim that tight undies impairs sperm production appears to be exaggerated too1). And scientists have found no association between frequency of masturbation and reports of erectile problems.2 So let’s talk about the actual causes of ED and what you can do to maintain erectile health.  
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Sex Question Friday: How Long Should Sex Last And How Do You Treat Premature Ejaculation?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question is a two-parter that comes from a male college student who was concerned about not lasting long enough in bed.  

What is the normal time span for intercourse? And how is premature ejaculation treated?

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Women Can Orgasm Prematurely, Too

Women Can Orgasm Prematurely, Too

Premature ejaculation is the most commonly reported sexual difficulty among men. In fact, more than one in five guys reaches orgasm before they (or their partners) would like [1]. Although the popular media tends to depict premature ejaculation in a humorous, lighthearted way (ever seen American Pie?), this problem is actually quite distressing to those who live with it.

Until recently, sexuality researchers were under the impression that reaching orgasm too quickly was a sexual dysfunction unique to men and that, if anything, women only suffered from the opposite problem of taking too long to climax. However, there is now scientific evidence that at least some women can't last as long as they would like to in bed [2].

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