Sex and Psychology Podcast: How ADHD Affects People's Sex Lives and Relationships

Sex and Psychology podcast. Justin Lehmiller interviews Ari Tuckman about how ADHD affects people’s sex lives. ADHD After Dark book.

Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a term that most people are familiar with. But when we hear about someone having ADHD, we tend to think about children and adolescents and how this disorder affects them at home or in school because most people who are diagnosed happen to be kids and there’s a widespread belief that people eventually “outgrow” ADHD.

The reality, however, is that most kids with ADHD become adults with ADHD. Also, there are a heck of a lot of adults out there with undiagnosed ADHD. So what are the implications of ADHD in adult life, especially in people’s personal lives? Does it impact the way they approach sex and relationships?

I recently interviewed Dr. Ari Tuckman for the Sex and Psychology Podcast in order to learn more. Tuckman is a certified sex therapist and psychologist who specializes in the diagnosis and treatment of ADHD and he just published his fourth book on the subject, which explores the various ways that ADHD affects people’s sexual and romantic lives. It’s called ADHD After Dark. In this episode of the podcast, we address a wide range of questions, including:

  • How does ADHD affect one’s sex life?

  • How does it impact a romantic relationship when one partner has ADHD and the other does not?

  • Are there gender differences in the way ADHD affects people’s relationships? What about sexual orientation differences?

  • What can couples do to combat the challenges that ADHD poses? How can persons with ADHD and their partners cultivate happier and healthier relationships?

  • What is the link between ADHD and infidelity?

  • Are persons with ADHD well suited for polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy?

To listen to the podcast in full, see below. It’s available in the form of a YouTube video, but you can also stream/download the podcast via the player underneath. Enjoy, and be sure to check out Tuckman’s book, ADHD After Dark.

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Photo of Dr. Lehmiller: Esther Boston Photography

Tell Me What You Want book cover: DaCapo Press

Photo of Ari Tuckman: Ari Tuckman

ADHD After Dark cover: Routledge Press

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