In the popular media, it’s easy to find claims of a rising “epidemic” of erectile dysfunction in young men. For example, this article argues that the rate of ED in young men has increased 1000% in the last decade alone—though, problematically, no research is cited to back it up, which makes this a very questionable claim. So what does the science say on this subject? Are erectile difficulties really rising at a dramatic rate in young guys? Let’s take a look.Read More
Difficulties with sexual desire and arousal are common, especially among women—and they’re notoriously difficult to treat with medications alone. However, the good news is that these problems are responsive to psychological treatments. Increasingly, one such treatment researchers have focused on is something known as mindfulness, and there’s a brand new book out about it that describes how you can use this technique to not only combat sexual difficulties, but also to have better sex in general.Read More
One of the most popular stereotypes of male sexuality is that men want sex all of the time because they're just "wired" that way. In other words, sex is seen as a largely biological function for men, with their emotional and psychological states having little to do with it. This stereotype can be harmful because it can make a guy start to wonder what's wrong with him when he doesn't want sex but his partner does--and to the extent that this becomes a chronic source of concern, it can create performance anxiety and detract from his ability to become and stay aroused in the future. This is but one of the many reasons why it's important for us to rethink our assumptions about male sexuality.Read More
Most people think of orgasms as a positive experience—one they look forward to repeating time and again. However, this isn’t true for people who experience something known as post-orgasmic illness syndrome, or POIS for short.
POIS is a rare medical condition that, for the most part, seems to affect men and involves getting sick for up to one week after each orgasm.Read More
While erections are sometimes referred to as “boners,” the truth of the matter is that there aren't actually any bones in the human penis. Some animals do have penile bones, though. For instance, male walruses can have penis bones up to two feet in length! In fact, they are so big that they were supposedly once used as war clubs by Native Alaskans--but I digress. Returning to the human penis, you may be surprised to learn that, despite the absence of bones, it's still very much possible to “fracture” an erection. Here's what we know about "broken" penises.Read More
Kegel exercises have been around for a long time. First described by Dr. Arnold Kegel back in the 1940s, they were originally developed as a way to help women experiencing urinary control issues following childbirth. Since then, however, researchers and therapists have discovered that these exercises offer a range of sexual benefits to women and men alike.Read More
Over the years, I’ve received countless emails from readers saying things along the lines of, “He says I don't want it enough. I think he wants it too much. What do we do?” Sometimes it’s women who want less sex than their male partners, sometimes it’s men who want less sex than their female partners, and sometimes it’s same-sex couples who aren’t on the same page about how much sex (or what kind of sex) they'd like to have.
Cases like this—where couples have persistent problems when it comes to matching up their sexual wants and needs—are known as sexual desire discrepancies. They’re incredibly common, too.Read More
A reader asked the following question:
“Are circumcised men less likely to have premature ejaculation?”
People have long been curious about what effects circumcision (or removal of the penile foreskin) has on men's sexual functioning in general, as well as their overall penile sensation; however, we’ll stick to your question here and look at whether this procedure is linked specifically to premature ejaculation.
As it turns out, a scientific review paper published earlier this year explored this very questionRead More
For the last two days, articles about “anal Botox” have been blowing up my Facebook and Twitter feeds, with most of the headlines (like this one from Cosmo) saying something along the lines of “Anal Botox Is A Thing, And Costs Up to $25,000.” To me, the surprising thing about these headlines wasn’t that people were putting Botox in their butts, but what they were supposedly paying for it. Let me explain.Read More
Before Viagra and penile implants, impotent men didn't have a lot of great options for treating their erectile difficulties. In fact, almost all of the early "treatments" for ED were nothing but snake oil--in other words, they were shams that didn't work at all (except maybe through the power of suggestion). They sold like hotcakes, though, because they were marketed to a desperate audience of men that was willing to try almost anything if it meant returning their penises to working order.
Many unscrupulous characters have tried to profit off of impotent men's desperation over the years by selling unproven "miracle cures." One of the most egregious cases ever documented involved a "doctor" by the name of John R. Brinkley.Read More
Sex surrogates are people who help clients deal with sexual difficulties by engaging in direct sexual activity with them. In addition, surrogates often help persons with physical disabilities more generally—many of whom report having difficulty establishing sexual relationships—to explore their sexual potential.
This practice is one that has been around for decades and actually dates back to the days of Masters and Johnson, who advocated for it as a part of some sex therapy programs; however, it remains controversial.Read More
It’s not uncommon for guys to experience fertility problems—even guys who are in the prime of their lives. In fact, some health organizations have claimed that as many as 1 in 5 young men have a low sperm count.
Male fertility issues have multiple causes. Medical conditions are a major contributor, from genetic anomalies to hormone imbalances to certain sexually transmitted infections.
However, several lifestyle factors are also linked to the quantity and quality of men’s “swimmers.” This is important to highlight because it means that medical intervention isn’t always necessary when guys want to improve the health of their sperm.
Indeed, there are some do-it-yourself tricks that can potentially improve a man’s sexual potency.Read More
Botox is well known for its ability to reduce the appearance of facial wrinkles; however, it has a surprising number of medical applications beyond this. In fact, physicians have used Botox to treat everything from migraine headaches to excessive sweating to eyelid and muscle spasms to overactive bladders to crossed eyes! Botox works as a treatment for these and other medical issues by temporarily paralyzing very specific sets of muscles.
So why am I writing about Botox on a sex blog? Because doctors have found that this drug can also be used to treat sexual dysfunctions. For example, studies have shown that Botox is an effective treatment for vaginismus, a condition in which the muscles around the vaginal opening involuntarily contract so tightly that penetration becomes painful or impossible . This isn't the only sexual difficulty for which Botox might help, though. In fact, new research suggests that it may be a novel treatment for premature ejaculation, too.Read More
A reader submitted the following question:
"Is premature ejaculation something that only happens to men? Can a woman climax too quickly too?"
Thanks for this very interesting question. Male premature orgasm, which is usually defined as consistently reaching orgasm before it is desired, is very common. For example, in a recent national British sex survey, nearly 15% of men reported experiencing it in the last year. Given its high prevalence and the fact that it's often accompanied by feelings of significant distress, male premature orgasm has attracted significant research and clinical attention.
Is it possible for women to experience premature orgasm too? It turns out that the answer is yes--but it's not nearly as common among women as it is among men.Read More
Many people are under the impression that all of us are “supposed” to reach orgasm each and every time we have sex. Indeed, when an orgasm does not occur, some people do not even categorize what just happened as sex, because sex without orgasm is often viewed instead as foreplay or “messing around.” As some evidence of this idea, research finds that college students are less likely to classify a given act as “sex” to the extent that orgasm doesn’t occur . That said, others may interpret a lack of orgasm very differently, with some seeing it as a “dysfunction” or a sign of a sexual problem in need of fixing.
This view of orgasm as essential not just to the definition of sex, but also to successful sex creates what has been dubbed the orgasmic imperative.Read More
The human papillomavirus (HPV) is a sexually transmitted infection that has the potential to cause a wide range of cancers, including cancers of the cervix, anus, and throat. A vaccine that can prevent HPV (and, consequently, its associated cancers) has been around for nearly a decade; however, it continues to be widely underutilized. For instance, according to data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, among teens aged 13-17, just 39.7% of girls and 21.6% of boys had received all three of the recommended doses of this vaccine in 2014. This is far lower than the rate of other recommended immunizations for people in this age group.Read More
It is not uncommon for men to experience sexual difficulties. In fact, national surveys have found that nearly half of male participants report having had at least one sexual problem in the last year. Two of the most common sex problems reported are premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. To learn more about the nature, causes, and treatment of these two issues, check out the infographic below. It includes some useful self-help strategies that men experiencing these difficulties might consider, but it also introduces some of the more advanced treatment options that may be offered to those who seek professional help. Please note that some of the drug treatment options listed are not available everywhere (e.g., Priligy for premature ejaculation and Spedra for erectile dysfunction are not currently available in the U.S.). For more detailed information on treating male sexual difficulties, check out this article.Read More
Among the many reasons reported by men for not using condoms consistently is that they can’t “keep it up” when they’re wearing a rubber. In other words, some guys stay away from condoms because they believe that using them causes erectile difficulties. While this may be the truth for some guys, a study just published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine finds that, for a lot of men, condoms aren’t necessarily to blame because they appear to have broader erectile problems.Read More
The penis tends to be the most common part of the body that men are dissatisfied with and wish they could change. Consider this: one online survey of over 25,000 men found that nearly half of the participants were unhappy with their current size, with 45% wanting to be larger and 0.2% wanting to be smaller . Thus, among those guys who aren’t happy with their penises, there is almost a universal desire to be bigger. However, when looking at the actual penile measurements of guys who think that they aren’t big enough, very few of them have objectively small penises—the vast majority fall well within the normal range . In other words, almost all of the guys who think that they’re too small are actually perfectly normal.Read More
Sexologists have long recognized that a link exists between feet and orgasm, but I'm not talking about foot fetishes here. What I am referring to is the fact that, upon reaching climax, it is common for the feet to extend and for the toes to curl. They aren't called "toe-curling orgasms" for nothing! In rare instances, however, the foot-orgasm connection goes much, much deeper. In fact, a group of physicians recently published a report on the world’s first known case of Foot Orgasm Syndrome (FOS) in which they described a Dutch woman who regularly experienced spontaneous orgasms originating in one of her feet.Read More