Lesbians May Have Sex Less Often, But When They Do It, They Make It Count

Lesbians May Have Sex Less Often, But When They Do It, They Make It Count

Over the past 30 years, much has been said and written about “lesbian bed death,” or the idea that long-term romantic relationships between women tend to be characterized by rather inactive sex lives. This originally stemmed from an observation in national survey data that female same-sex couples have a lower sexual frequency than both mixed-sex (male-female) couples and male same-sex couples [1], a finding that has been replicated many times since. However, some scholars have been critical of using these results to support the existence of “lesbian bed death” because they fail to take into account how much time women in same-sex relationships actually spend on each sexual event. Is it possible that lower sexual frequency in female-female relationships might be offset by a longer duration of sexual activity? A new study published in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality suggests that this might just be the case [2].

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The Power Of Touch: The Crucial Role Of Physical Intimacy In Relationships

The Power Of Touch: The Crucial Role Of Physical Intimacy In Relationships

One of the keys to a healthy, long-term relationship is maintaining physical intimacy. I’m not just talking about sex, though—for many reasons, non-sexual physical intimacy is just as important. For one thing, touch is a form of communication. It can reveal everything from your partner’s current mood state to their stress level. In addition, touch stimulates the release of oxytocin, a hormone involved in feelings of bondedness. Touch can therefore bring you closer to your partner both physically and psychologically.

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Sex Question Friday: If A Guy Likes Bisexual And Transsexual Porn, Is He Gay?

Sex Question Friday: If A Guy Likes Bisexual And Transsexual Porn, Is He Gay?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a heterosexually-identified male reader who wanted to know the following:

“How common is it for a man to enjoy watching bisexual and transsexual porn but to have no physical attraction to men in the real world?”

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Sex Needs A New Metaphor (VIDEO)

Sex Needs A New Metaphor (VIDEO)

In this TED talk, sexuality educator Al Vernacchio argues that Americans need a new metaphor when talking about sex. Vernacchio claims that, all too often, we talk about our sex lives like a game of baseball. This baseball metaphor is used to describe everything from sexual roles/positions (are you a pitcher, catcher, or switch-hitter?) to what happened during a given encounter (which “base” did you get to?) to the outcome of the event (was it a strike-out or a score?). Vernacchio believes that this metaphor makes it difficult to have healthy discussions about sexuality because it frames sex as a competition, where there is necessarily a winner and a loser, and also because it implies that sex necessarily follows a predictable sequence of events each time (i.e., there’s only one “correct” way to play the game). So how should we talk about sex instead? Vernacchio suggests that we think about sex like we're sharing a pizza. Why pizza of all things? Check out the video below to learn more.

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“Excuse Me, My Face Is Up Here”: A Study Of Eye Movements And Sexual Intentions

“Excuse Me, My Face Is Up Here”: A Study Of Eye Movements And Sexual Intentions

How do you know whether your date is looking for a one-night stand or a long-term love? A new study just published in the journal Psychological Science suggests that the answer may be in their eyes. I know this will not be surprising to some of you, but the amount of time a person spends looking at your face versus your body appears to be indicative of whether their intentions are romantic or purely sexual in nature.

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Sex Question Friday: Is Simultaneous Orgasm Possible For Straight Couples?

Sex Question Friday: Is Simultaneous Orgasm Possible For Straight Couples?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader who wanted to know the following:

“Is it really possible for a guy and girl to reach orgasm at the same time during sex, or is that just a pipe dream?”

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Rates Of Orgasm By Sexual Orientation And Gender (Infographic)

Rates Of Orgasm By Sexual Orientation And Gender (Infographic)

The so-called "orgasm gap" (i.e., the finding that men have more consistent experiences with orgasm than women) has been widely publicized. However, the research on this topic has focused primarily on heterosexuals. How does sexual orientation factor into this equation? Check of the infographic below for the answers from a new study just published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. The results suggest that the orgasm gap is persistent across sexual orientations; however, there is a smaller gap between lesbians and gay men than there is between women and men of other sexual orientations.

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From Vodka Tampons To Beer Bong Enemas: Non-Traditional Alcohol Use Among College Students

From Vodka Tampons To Beer Bong Enemas: Non-Traditional Alcohol Use Among College Students

The other day, I overheard a couple of college-age guys talking about what they thought was an ingenious method for never failing a breathalyzer test again when stopped by police on suspicion of drunk driving: ingesting alcohol anally instead of orally—specifically, by inserting vodka-soaked tampons into their rear ends (actually, one guy suggested vodka, but the other guy said he’d prefer a tequila tampon. I suspect your anus wouldn’t know the difference, though). That way, according to their logic, you won’t smell like booze or breathe it out. Upon hearing this, my first thought was that the best way to avoid failing a breathalyzer test is simply to not drink and drive in the first place and maybe download the app for Uber or Lyft instead. My second thought was one of concern because these guys actually sounded serious about trying it. So, does anyone actually do this? And what kind of effects would this have on the body?

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Sexual Orientation Stats In The United States (Infographic)

Sexual Orientation Stats In The United States (Infographic)

One of the most common questions I receive about sexual orientation concerns the percentage of the population that is gay, lesbian, or bisexual. People seem to have wildly different ideas about what the answer is, so I created the infographic below to highlight the difference between what people think and what the research actually says.

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The Appeal Of The MILF

The Appeal Of The MILF

In the book A Billion Wicked Thoughts, neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam analyzed the contents of over a billion searches on some of the most popular porn sites. Among their many fascinating findings was that the most popular search term on Pornhub (one of the most heavily visited tube sites in the entire world) was “mom.” That’s right. Mom.

So how do we explain the appeal of the MILF?

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Did PMS Evolve In Order To Split Up Infertile Couples?

Did PMS Evolve In Order To Split Up Infertile Couples?

Premenstrual syndrome (or PMS as it is more commonly known) is a catchall term for any unpleasant physical and psychological symptoms a woman might experience just prior to getting her period. Research suggests that as many as 80% of women experience PMS; however, the nature and severity of the symptoms varies dramatically across individuals [1]. On the surface, PMS might not appear to be an adaptive trait, especially considering that, at least for a very small percentage of women, the symptoms are so severe as to become debilitating (in which case it may be referred to as premenstrual dysphoric disorder, or PMDD). But if PMS is so widespread, is it possible that perhaps it came to exist for some evolutionary reason? That’s what Dr. Michael Gillings argues in a controversial new paper just published in Evolutionary Applications [2].

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Sex Question Friday: Is Bisexuality More Common In Women Or Men?

Sex Question Friday: Is Bisexuality More Common In Women Or Men?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader who wanted to know more about the topic of bisexuality:

“I have always heard that there are more bi females than there are bi males. Is this true and, if so, why?”

Great questions! As for whether there are more bisexual females than males, the answer depends what you mean by “bisexual.”

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Happy K-Day! Celebrating 61 Years Of Female Sex Research

Happy K-Day! Celebrating 61 Years Of Female Sex Research

Sixty-one years ago today (August 20, 1953), the media first reported on the findings of Alfred Kinsey's classic book Sexual Behavior in the Human Female.  It was the first book of its kind to explore women's sexual attitudes and behaviors from a scientific perspective. While this book initially came as quite a shock to the world and was deemed "obscene" by many, we now look back on it now as one of the most important publications ever on human sexuality because it debunked so many myths and revealed that women are far more sexual than most had previously assumed. For example, Kinsey found that women were pleasuring themselves, they were having sex before marriage, and they were even engaging in same-sex behavior. It turns out that men aren't the only ones with sexual needs and desires. Who knew, right?

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10 Mesmerizing Facts About Sexual Attraction

10 Mesmerizing Facts About Sexual Attraction

What is it that determines who we are sexually attracted to? This is a surprisingly complex question to answer because attractiveness appears to depend upon a number of factors. Some of these are biological, others are psychological, and yet others have to do with our social environments. Below are ten of the most interesting findings scientists have documented when it comes to attraction.

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Sex Question Friday: How Can We Make Anal Sex More Pleasurable?

Sex Question Friday: How Can We Make Anal Sex More Pleasurable?

Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a male reader who wanted to know more about the topic of anal sex:

“My girlfriend and I both really want to try anal sex, but every time we do, we stop almost immediately because she says it’s too painful. Are we doing something wrong? Is there anything we can try to make it pleasurable instead of painful for her?

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Sperm Cooperation: Sometimes Sperm Swim Together To Enhance Performance

Sperm Cooperation: Sometimes Sperm Swim Together To Enhance Performance

Most of us think of sperm as being competitive by nature, with each sperm cell trying to “swim” just a little faster than the others in order to reach the egg first. However, new research out of Harvard suggests that, at least in some species, there isn’t a constant rivalry en route to the egg. In fact, sometimes sperm actually appear to help each other by cooperating and forming groups while they travel.

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On First Meeting, Being "Nice" Helps Women More Than Men

On First Meeting, Being "Nice" Helps Women More Than Men

Almost everyone has heard the phrase “nice guys finish last” before. But is there any truth to it? According to a new set of studies published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, being a "nice" guy does not seem to enhance your sexual desirability to women, at least in the context of initial attraction. In contrast, however, niceness appears to make women more appealing to men on first meeting.

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What Is It Really Like To Be A Sex Researcher?

What Is It Really Like To Be A Sex Researcher?

Nerve recently ran an article entitled "Meet The Modern-Day Masters Of Sex," in which they interviewed four sexologists about how they got into the field, what a typical day looks like for them, and how their work impacts their personal life. I am honored to have been included among the interviewees, along with Drs. Debby Herbenick, Kristen Mark, and Sarah Merrill. I know that many readers of this blog are aspiring sexologists who will find this to be a worthwhile read. But even if you aren't planning to study sex, this article does a nice job of highlighting just how diverse the nature of our work is and it debunks some common myths and misconceptions about sex and sexology.

Check out the full article on Nerve here.

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6 Of The Most Unusual Animal Genitals (VIDEO)

6 Of The Most Unusual Animal Genitals (VIDEO)

Did you know that the argonaut octopus has a flying, detachable penis? Or that female kangaroos have three vaginas? Or that female hyenas have clitorises so large that people often mistake them for penises? These are just some of the many incredible genital variations found in nature. To learn more, check out the short video below from our friends over at ASAP Thought.

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